Understanding The Wife Husband Relationship

 Understanding The Wife Husband Relationship


The wife husband relationship can be a complicated one. Many marriages fail because one or both partners don't really understand the dynamic of the relationship. If even one person has a basic understanding of it, the marriage is bound to be stronger. But if both people understand how a wife husband relationship works, then it has the best chance of being a good marriage.

One of the keys to understanding the wife husband relationship is to realize just how different men and women really are. Aside from the obvious physical differences, the sexes are different emotionally and mentally, too.

When faced with a problem, for instance, men and women tend to approach it from completely different angles. Women are more likely to discuss it with other people. They might get advice and input from a few friends. It's not uncommon for women to talk about the problem at length.

That's because women solve problems when they talk about them. They explore all the angles of the issue and how they feel about it, and often in doing so a solution appears.

Men, on the other hand, tend to be more tight-lipped about problems. They think about it more than they talk about it. It's more common for a man to ponder a problem and say little until he's figured out the solution.

In the wife husband relationship this difference in problem solving can itself be a problem. He might think that she's talking it to death when she should be trying to figure it out herself. And she might think he's not even worried about something because he's not talking about it. When in reality, it's on his mind all the time and he's just not pointing it out.

Sometimes, women tend to talk about things that they don't necessarily want help with, or advice about. They simply want someone to listen to their opinion and thoughts. Where if a man is talking about something, it's because he wants an answer.

If a woman is talking about something just to get it off her chest or vent, other women tend to get that and offer support. They don't try to tell her what to do for the most part, but simply join in the conversation in empathy.

A man might simply state a solution and tell the woman what she should do, thinking he's being very helpful and doing what he's supposed to. But in reality, the woman will feel that he's not listening and instead just trying to end the conversation.

Of course, not every wife husband relationship will happen exactly like these examples. Some men will talk out a problem and some women will be tight-lipped about it. But in general, the sexes can be expected to follow these typically patterns.

Understanding those patterns can help you stop yourself before you do something that's natural to you. You can think about what your partner needs from you instead, and do that .Your wife husband relationship will be much stronger and happier because of it.

How To Increase Chemistry In Relationships

 

How To Increase Chemistry In Relationships

Think chemistry in relationships is something that “just happens?” If you do, the truth might surprise you. Sure, you probably can’t create chemistry where none exists, but if that initial spark is there, there’s plenty you can do to fan the flames.

Understand what chemistry is!

If you’ve never really felt strong chemistry with another person, it can be hard to get an idea of what it is. What most people call chemistry is a sense that the two of you are just meant to be together. You’re both perfectly at ease with each other and have a strong physical attraction for each other. While it might have something to do with looks and pheromones, most of it is mental. It comes from you and your sweetie having the same beliefs, dreams, and maybe even habits and pet peeves.

Develop a rapport!

Before you can build up any chemistry, you need to have a good rapport first. If you’ve only seen each other for one or two dates, that rapport may not quite be there yet. To create it, look for a conversation topic you can really bond over. Just make sure it’s something pleasant and low-stress, though. You may discover you both love discussing ways to end famine in Africa, but that subject doesn’t help your partner associate you with pleasure and fun.

Use humor!

Laughter is not only fun, it also makes us feel at ease with another person. You don’t have to be a professional comedian. Even an attempt at humor in your own style can work. Just keep it clean and neutral so you don’t offend your date right off the bat.

Adrenaline is your friend!

Studies have shown that couples who met in an exciting situation—whether pleasurable or not—tend to find each other more attractive. More so than couples who met under normal circumstances. It works because the mind associates any excitement with the person we’re with at the time and mistakes it for physical attraction. Make use of this by planning a date that will get the adrenaline pumping like a scary movie, a roller coaster ride, or even whitewater rafting.

Express yourself!

You can’t have chemistry in relationships with people who don’t know the real you. Instead of keeping your opinions to yourself in hopes of hiding anything your partner might not like about you, make it a point to share your thoughts and feelings about important issues. Sometimes just a single off-hand comment can make your date fall for you hard.

Enhance the physical!

Some tips for how to increase chemistry in relationships will tell you to touch your date on the knee or arm early on. You want to be careful with that, though. Get physical too early on and you could just end up turning your partner off. Instead, start by just talking about what physical features you each find most attractive in the opposite sex and then using the info you gain to your advantage.

Chemistry in relationships may be mysterious and hard to control, but that doesn’t mean you can’t help it along a little. Make sure you start with a good rapport, throw in a little humor and excitement and you’ll be off to a good start.

The Best Spouse Relationships

The Best Spouse Relationships

The best spouse relationships are based on love and respect. That goes without saying, doesn't it? Everyone probably realizes that love and respect are crucial to having a good marriage. But beyond love and respect there are a few things that can help spouse relationships.

Think back to when you were first married. If you're newly married, think back to when you first met and were dating. How did you treat your partner?  You probably treated your partner with respect, but also with kindness and thoughtfulness.

Unfortunately, it's common that the longer we know someone, the less kind we tend to be toward them. One would think that the opposite holds true. But we start to take the other person for granted and think they'll always be there, no matter what.

Think of the last time you went to the bank or grocery store and spoke to the cashier. Maybe you exchanged words with a stranger. How was the tone of your voice and your words?

You probably sounded like the sweetest person on the planet. That person might have thought how polite when you walked away.

Now think to the words and the tone of the voice you use with your spouse sometimes. When you get angry or you're unhappy about something, think about how you sound.

 Would you ever speak that way to a stranger?  If you're thinking probably not then you've started taking advantage of your spouse.

People do it with close friends, parents and children, too. If we could record people's conversations and play them back at a different time, people might be ashamed of how they sounded.

 And they probably wouldn't speak that way to someone they didn't know well for fear of hurting their feelings!

Good spouse relationships are kind ones. Everyone gets angry now and then. And yes, everyone says things he or she regrets in an angry and even hateful tone of voice.  But you can keep these instances to a minimum by just thinking about whether you'd talk to your postman or your boss that way.

Thoughtfulness is also an important factor in good spouse relationships. People love their spouses, but it seems the longer they're together, the less they sometimes show it. Your spouse is the one person you should make a point of being thoughtful towards, always.

In the beginning when you're first dating someone or first married, you might send (or receive) flowers, cards and little surprises. Generally after people are married for a while, these sorts of things slow down or stop. Why ?

 Remembering to be thoughtful and surprise your spouse can help makes yours one of the better spouse relationships. Try to keep in mind that marriage isn't written in stone. There really are other opportunities out there for your spouse. Bring back some of the things you did and said when you were trying to win this person.

 Be kind and thoughtful as much as you can. Those combined with love and respect will make yours one of the enduring spouse relationships of a life time.

4 Great Lessons From Relationships Experts

4 Great Lessons From Relationships Experts

If you've read or listened to relationships experts, you know that some of what they say is just common sense. They tell us things we already know, but they're great at putting it into words and examples that make things easier to understand. The best relationships experts just know how to communicate.

They can take those common sense things and say them in a way that makes you get it. Like the concept of  what to expect and what to give in a relationship. This is one of the best lessons you can get from relationships experts.

Very often we go along in a relationship and as time goes on we start to take the other person for granted a little bit. We don't thank them as much, and sometimes we don't do nice things in return for them quite as much.

It's not that we don't want to, but that we simply forget or think there will be time later. After the relationship hit a rocky period or ended. We start to remember to be thoughtful and kind. And it becomes very important to us.. Relationships experts stress that as a good way to keep a relationship strong.

A second great lesson from the experts is to do what the other person will appreciate. This is another great common sense lesson that's all too easy to overlook. It applies to anytime during a relationship but after you've gotten back together from a break up or other bad patches it's even more important.

To do what the other person wants doesn't mean you should never consider yourself. But you should try to do what appeals to them to show them that you care. If it really makes you happy when your boyfriend or husband helps you wash the dishes, then maybe if you helped him with some housework that would make him feel loved, too.

But there may be ways he likes to feel loved that are different. He might be the type of person who likes to hear you say it often, or likes romantic gestures. Even if those things aren't as important to you, you need to do the things that are special to him.

Sometimes we forget that, or we just assume that everyone responds to the same things. But doing what makes the other person feel most special is easy to do, as long as we remind ourselves to do it.

And a lesson that the experts teach that often goes forgotten is respect. Of course, you respect your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife but does it always show?  This is part of taking them for granted but goes beyond not thanking them or returning loving gestures.

Often, the person we're closest to gets the brunt of our worst days. We might be late for something and keep them waiting, or we might just accidentally be inconsiderate and not apologize enough. Take a lesson from the relationships experts and ask yourself if you treat your partner with the same respect you would treat a parents or co-worker :)

How To Get Your Relationships Needs Met

How To Get Your Relationships Needs Met

If you can get your relationships needs met, the relationship has a better chance of being long and happy. Not having your needs met is one of the biggest reasons relationships don't work out. It's especially important to have your relationships needs met to stay happy and stay together.
The surefire way to get your needs met in a relationship is by making sure the other person knows just what those needs are. You can't read minds, and you shouldn't expert your partner to be able to read minds either. He or she wants to make sure your relationships needs are met, so tell them what they are.

At the same time, encourage your partner to tell you the needs he or she feels are important. You might be surprised to learn, if you've never had this conversation before, how different your needs might be.

You might feel the need for you partner to tell you he loves you often, so may you do that for him. He no doubt enjoys that, but maybe what he really needs is for you to do quick considerate things to make him feel special. Some people like to be told, and some people like to be shown.

Simply having a discussion about your relationships needs can strengthen the relationship and make it easier for you to keep each other happy. If you're uncomfortable having such a frank discussion, you should do it anyway. Telling each other your needs is better than hinting or expecting them to be psychic.

You may really need your partner to be more helpful to you. But when it's time to clean or wash dishes you do them alone, yet again. And instead of simply asking for help or letting him know that it would mean a lot to you if he would do them sometimes or do them with you. But instead you get angry.

You might huff around while you're doing them, slam a cabinet, or act otherwise out. This is passive aggressive behavior. You're trying to manipulate him into helping you by acting that way. It's much better and healthier to simply ask for help.

Passive aggressive behavior is common in relationships, and it's a worsening cycle because it doesn't work. If he does take your hint, it's only after you've acted upon being angry and resentful. So his doing the dishes might be only to keep you from acting that way.

If you ask for help and explain that it makes you feel good when he wants to help you, then he's coming at the task from a place of love and helpfulness. He doesn't feel a sense guilt into doing it, so it's better for everyone.

This applies to things like showing affection, respecting each others feelings, and every aspect of your relationship. When you want something, ask for it, and be prepared to give your partner what he or she asks for to make sure all your relationships needs are met.

SUBJ: Finally...WHY MEN PULL AWAY...(and what you can do about it)

    

SUBJ: Finally...WHY MEN PULL AWAY...(and what you can do about it)


 
Hello there,  Dr. Paul here.....You made it back again ( yea !)

If you're up to it...I've got something I want to ask you?

And then let's have a little discussion...okay?

Here's my question?

It's likely you've experienced a time when you felt like your guy was "pulling a-w-a-y" from you...

Many times, to make it more maddening, it seems like it happens right after you two had a fantastic time together and seemed to connect...right?

Which leaves you totally freaked out because you don't know what the heck happened?

Was it because?

...you've moved too fast?...

...was it something you did?

...or is it just him?

My question...and I know it's a sensitive one is...

Have you ever felt like it was because HE WAS LOSING INTEREST IN YOU?


If you have...May I share a bit of  wisdom with you?

It'll make you feel better.

IMPORTANT Little known WISDOM: Men RARELY pull away from you because of loss of interest.

In fact...

He can be DEEPLY in love with you and still pull away...or worse... leave the relationship all together!

How's that supposed to make you feel better?

Here's how...

Men pull away for 4 very distinct reasons...

These are called the 4 Masculine Hero Avatar Principles or 4 M.H.A.P. for short

==>Learn more about WHY MEN PULL AWAY and 4 M.H.A.P.

Once you understand WHY he pulls away, it's much EASIER to see how you should react when
he does pull away.

But that's not even the best part...

The powerful part is BECAUSE now you know he's not pulling away because he's less interested...

You'll avoid overcompensating, which means you avoid him pulling away FURTHER.

Make sense?

T Dub has a talent for explaining this in a fun way using what he calls his "Magic Traffic Signal"...

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You'll get a kick out of his warm Southern accent too:-)

OH! If you dream of being married soon?

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I'm curious how much closer your relationship will be when you put what T Dub teaches you to use?

Sincerely,
Dr. Paul Pharms, PhD.

PS

Not only will you learn WHY men pull away and what you can do about it, but you'll also discover
"invisible man traps", his Masculine Hero Avatar and I got a kick out of what T Dub calls "man repellent"...LOL!

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Why First Kisses Go Bad

 Why First Kisses Go Bad

If you have ever been on a first date, you have probably had an awful kiss moment.  This is one of the most
important things I have to teach men about because it’s mostly our fault.  But the truth is that women never really help us.

If a man takes you on a date there is a 90% chance he wants to kiss you.  He is only waiting and really just paying his taxes until you give him the sign that he has: spent enough money, told enough good stories, spent enough time with you.

What you need to know is that men cannot read your signals.

I know that it’s hard to believe but all of those subtle little signals you are sending out are only understandable to other women.  I have stood next to a student while a woman kept leaning in closer and closer to his mouth and he didn’t realize what was happening. 

She would close her eyes, tilt her head and lean in toward his mouth.  He wouldn’t react and she would rock back out.  I had to sneak up behind him and tell him that I would punch him in the kidney if he didn’t kiss her.

That might seem extreme but it was the only way that woman was ever going to get kissed.

The worst thing that can happen on a first date is the awkward front door moment.  I spend so much time teaching my male students how to avoid it, but it always amazes me how many women will actively create this socially awkward moment.
The earlier you kiss on a date the better.

Please have the courtesy to remove the elephant in the room.

He is only pretending to listen to your story about your sister’s new job.  All he’s thinking about is that moment.  Is she going to kiss me?  Is she not going to kiss me?  Am I wasting my time?

If you ever wonder why men don’t remember anything you say on a first date, that’s why. It’s a constant track running through the backs of their minds.

Is there a solution?

Of course there is!  I wouldn’t leave you hanging.  I am going to teach you a kissing technique that has been passed down from male dating coach to male dating coach for generations.  This is the first kissing move I ever tried, and it worked great.

Just say to him, “Do you want to kiss me?”

Now I know that sounds scary, but don’t worry.  There is an escape hatch.  Besides, don’t you want to know early on if you are with a guy who’s not interested?

There are only three possible answers: yes, no and maybe.

YES – “Then what are you waiting for?” and kiss.

NO – “Oh, you just looked like you were thinking about something.”

MAYBE, “Let’s find out,” and the ball is in his court.

By moving the kiss forward in the date you avoid creating an awkward situation that actually makes you no longer attracted to a man.  If you have that front door moment, there is just too much pressure.  It forces you to recall way too many movies and that’s something you really want to avoid.

So just get it out of the way so you can have a nice date.

How To Apologize To Get Someone Back

How To Apologize To Get Someone Back

To get someone back when they've walked out on you, doesn't have to be difficult.  It doesn't matter if they walked out a few days ago or a few months ago.  The same principles still apply. All that needs to be done is for you to be determined and committed to your cause and you take the necessary action.

Your first action is going to be to figure out what went wrong and what was your role in what went wrong.  This isn't about blaming for blames sake, it's about figuring out what you need to do to apologize and to make things right. Remember it takes two to make a relationship and two to break a relationship, so be honest with yourself and take your share of the blame.

The bottom line is that to get someone back, you're going to need an effective top draw apology.  The apology must, in effect serve two ends: an explanation of why you're sorry and a further explanation of the plan you're going to implement so that the same wrong behavior never occurs again.  Get these two planks right and your apology will work for you.

Explaining to your ex about why you're sorry for what has happened, means that you have taken the time to sit and figure out what your ex found so objectionable about your behavior.  If you find it difficult to dispassionately figure this out, then you might need to go and talk to a professional about the specifics of your situation.

A professional can help you see things from the point of view of your ex and if you want to get someone back, this could be the key.  What this doesn't mean is that you become a doormat for your ex and agree with whatever they say and whatever they object to.

 That is why it is good to have a professional third party look at the situation and give you their thoughts.  If they believe your ex has a point about an aspect of your behavior, then they will tell you and go they may even go on and work with you to change that behavior.

The second part of your apology, as said, involves explaining to your ex how what happened will never happen again.  This is when you present your ex with the plan that you have put in place to ensure no repeat of what happened.  When your ex hears about your well thought out plan, as you attempt to get someone back, it will be in your favor.  Your ex will see that you are serious and sincere in what you're saying.  So if you are working with a professional, this is a great indicator to your ex that there is hope for a second chance.

Above all, be honest and sincere and your second chance with your ex will be far more likely.

I Dumped Boyfriend And Now I Want Him Back

I Dumped Boyfriend And Now I Want Him Back

So you were dating a guy you really liked and then one day you noticed a tiny little issue about him that you didn't really like and you dumped boyfriend! Just like that!  Out of the blue!  But have you really dug down deep to try and understand why you dumped boyfriend?

Perhaps you've told yourself that it was the way he ate his food?  Or the way he laughed or perhaps even something as earth shattering as the way that he walked?  Whatever it was that made you turn around and end up with a dumped boyfriend, boy are you regretting it now because now, you want him back.  But here's the thing he wants nothing to do with you and everything that you've tried so far to get him back, as failed.

Well, have you tried just leaving him alone for a while?  Because pretty much you've hurt his feelings big time and he's doubtless feeling humiliated. If you've been calling him 24/7 and he's just not picking up, then that's a clear indication that he needs you to leave him alone.

So instead of bombarding him with text messages and calls, give him some space and take a look at the real hidden reasons that might have caused you to wake up one morning with a dumped boyfriend.

Truth is some women have been known to 'test' the relationship by ending it to see if their boyfriends will put up a fight for them and the relationship.  If this is what you did, then this is basically flawed behavior.  Not only that, ask yourself why you would even want to put someone who you clearly have feelings for through the upset of a breakup?

Usually anyone who tries to manipulate someone to this extreme, has deep rooted self-esteem issues that they should really think about working out.  Your self-esteem is really the inner you.  If you are suffering from low self-esteem then the little voice in your head often shouts negativity at you and tells you that you are just not good enough.  Take the time to address this and you will be far happier.

To win back a dumped boyfriend you're going to have to clearly work on yourself. No self-respecting boyfriend wants to be around someone who is high maintenance and doesn't know her own mind.  In future, make sure you're one hundred per cent sure about what you are doing and why you are doing it. 

Instead of dumping the guy, why not sit and talk to him about your fears and your insecurities. He will think more of you if you are honest with him, rather than if you simply lash out on a whim and dump him for what appears to be no good reason.

To Get Back With Ex Face Up To Your Mistakes

To Get Back With Ex Face Up To Your Mistakes

To get back with ex after you've made mistakes, means you're no doubt going to have to face some hard home truths!  As sure as eggs are eggs, making mistakes in relationships means you have to fix them and apologize for those mistakes before there can be any making up.

When you decide you want to get back with ex, you must be ready to face not only what has gone wrong with the relationship, but also your part in the break down of the relationship.  If you made mistakes then don't beat yourself up for that.  We all make them, it's what you do after the mistake that's important.

So sit down on your own and take some time to go through what happened and what were the issues that led up to what happened.  Don't concern yourself too much with what you see as your ex's mistakes, leave that for the future.  Only concern yourself right now with what you can influence.

Whatever mistakes you find in your past behavior, can they be forgiven?  Don't be too eager to get down on yourself and believe that your mistakes are basically unforgivable.  You would be surprised at the situations that couples find themselves in and that they later recover from. So don't think that your mistakes are beyond forgiveness. There is always hope!

Try and pin point what was happening in your life at the time that led you to make the mistakes, especially if it was completely out of character for you. Remember what I said about facing hard truths, if you want to get back with ex, then you need to do this.

You might discover that you were under certain stresses and strains.  Perhaps you were under threat at your job?  Or you weren't physically feeling yourself? Or perhaps there were other family issues.  Whatever you find when you look back at what happened, you will eventually need to sit down with your ex and explain in detail just what you have found.

If your mistakes were the result of you just being thoughtless or selfish, then this is something about you and your character that can quite easily be fixed.  It will take ongoing monitoring but if you are sincerely committed to get back with ex, then it is going to be worthwhile.

When you have come to the point where you have begun to gain perspective about your mistakes, then call your ex and arrange to meet.  It is usually better to arrange a face to face meeting somewhere public and neutral because then there is less chance of either of you becoming emotional.

So, make sure that you stay calm and focused on what you want to say. Apologize and ask for forgiveness and then listen carefully to what your ex has to say.