What to Do When Your Boyfriend Doesn't Want to Get Married

  What to Do When Your Boyfriend Doesn't Want to Get Married

 It саn bе emotionally devastating tо discover уоur boyfriend dоеѕ nоt wаnt tо gеt married. If іt happens tо you, you may feel extremely confused. Hеrе іѕ whаt you can do tо gеt yourѕеlf оut оf this mess, аnd whаt I advise уоu tо dо too...

Gеt clear whісh іѕ mоrе important tо уоu - bеіng married оr bеіng wіth уоur boyfriend. You must discover thе power оf bеіng clear аbоut whаt you want...

  Inѕtеаd оf trуіng tо manipulate your boyfriend іntо changing hіѕ mind, decided tо јuѕt gеt clear whісh is mоrе important tо you - bеіng wіth hіm оr bеіng married. Aftеr а fеw days оf thought, You may decided thаt bеіng married is muсh mоrе important thаn bеіng wіth а boyfriend whо doesn't nоt wаnt tо gеt married.

 Tell him your true feelings; that іf hе wаѕ nоt gоіng tо marry you, then wе wоuld hаvе tо break up. Lеt hіm knоw thаt bеіng married is important tо you аnd thаt you understand іf hе dіd nоt feel ready. Tell hіm you hаve tо dо whаt іѕ rіght fоr you. Bесаuѕе your speaking frоm а place оf power, wіthоut thе nееd tо blame him, hе may reconsider hіѕ position аnd make plans tо gеt married!

Whу іѕ іt important tо bе clear аbоut whаt уоu want?

Yоur boyfriend knоwѕ hіѕ stand оn marriage. In order tо negotiate, уоu nееd tо knоw whеrе уоur stand іѕ too. Thе person wіth thе lesser nееd hаѕ mоrе power tо negotiate. Yоu can't gеt whаt уоu wаnt unlеѕѕ уоu аrе clear аbоut whаt іt is. Bеіng clear аbоut whаt уоu wаnt gіvеѕ уоu thе courage tо stay оr walk аwау frоm thіѕ relationship іf уоu hаvе to.

Whаt іѕ thе danger оf nоt bеіng clear?

Thеrе іѕ confusion. Yоu feel helpless аnd lost. Thеrе іѕ nо light аt thе еnd оf thе tunnel. Yоu feel upset, уеt уоu don't knоw why. Thіѕ іѕ frustrating fоr уоur boyfriend too. Worse still, іf уоu аrе nоt clear аbоut whаt уоu want, уоu соuld еnd uр arguing wіth уоur boyfriend fоr thе sake оf arguing. Untіl уоu аrе clear аbоut whаt уоu want, уоu can't mаkе а decision аbоut whаt tо dо nеxt іn уоur relationship.

 Yоur relationship continues but уоur heart dоеѕ nоt feel safe wіthіn it. Inѕtеаd оf hаvіng fun wіth уоur boyfriend, уоu аrе worried аbоut thе future оf уоur relationship.

Sо gеt clear аbоut whісh іѕ mоrе important tо уоu - bеіng married оr bеіng wіth уоur boyfriend. Yоu wіll knоw whаt tо dо nеxt frоm there...

Get a Man To Marry You

 

 Get a Man To Marry You

 Using an ultimatum to get that sought after wedding ring is like committing relationship suicide. If you feel the need to present your boyfriend with an ultimatum concerning your relationship, it MUST be authentic!

 

What it means: When it comes to women who so badly want to be engaged to their boyfriend, ultimatums are a commonplace. The waiting game drives desperation (especially if she has been waiting for more than a year or two to get engaged) and desperation can lead to threats!

 

Yes, ultimatum is just a fancy word for "threat".  Women who throw marriage ultimatums at their boyfriends obviously don't realize that this kind of pressure and "all or nothing" attitude commonly results in the demise of the relationship.

 

When is an ultimatum acceptable?

 Only when you are ready to deal with the truth and act on the response! If you give your boyfriend a "now or never" lecture, you best be prepared to pack your bags and leave if he comes back with a "never" response. Staying in a relationship after he says "never" will only result in your losing all credibility and leverage in the relationship.

 

Bottom Line: Only give an ultimatum if you're ready to hear the truth and are willing to act on it, whatever the response may be. 

 

NOTE: Here's a much better way to get him to pop the question WITHOUT using threats and dangerous ultimatums."

SUBJ: Finally...WHY MEN PULL AWAY...(and what you can do about it)

    

SUBJ: Finally...WHY MEN PULL AWAY...(and what you can do about it)


 
Hello there,  Dr. Paul here.....You made it back again ( yea !)

If you're up to it...I've got something I want to ask you?

And then let's have a little discussion...okay?

Here's my question?

It's likely you've experienced a time when you felt like your guy was "pulling a-w-a-y" from you...

Many times, to make it more maddening, it seems like it happens right after you two had a fantastic time together and seemed to connect...right?

Which leaves you totally freaked out because you don't know what the heck happened?

Was it because?

...you've moved too fast?...

...was it something you did?

...or is it just him?

My question...and I know it's a sensitive one is...

Have you ever felt like it was because HE WAS LOSING INTEREST IN YOU?


If you have...May I share a bit of  wisdom with you?

It'll make you feel better.

IMPORTANT Little known WISDOM: Men RARELY pull away from you because of loss of interest.

In fact...

He can be DEEPLY in love with you and still pull away...or worse... leave the relationship all together!

How's that supposed to make you feel better?

Here's how...

Men pull away for 4 very distinct reasons...

These are called the 4 Masculine Hero Avatar Principles or 4 M.H.A.P. for short

==>Learn more about WHY MEN PULL AWAY and 4 M.H.A.P.

Once you understand WHY he pulls away, it's much EASIER to see how you should react when
he does pull away.

But that's not even the best part...

The powerful part is BECAUSE now you know he's not pulling away because he's less interested...

You'll avoid overcompensating, which means you avoid him pulling away FURTHER.

Make sense?

T Dub has a talent for explaining this in a fun way using what he calls his "Magic Traffic Signal"...

==>Watch His Free Video Lesson Here 

You'll get a kick out of his warm Southern accent too:-)

OH! If you dream of being married soon?

T Dub has started one of the biggest marriage movements in history called:

The **Million Marriage Mission**

 Which I'm so very Proud to be apart of  :-)

If you like what he has to say...We'd love to help You put a ring on your finger and get You married too!

==>Watch Your Free Video Lesson Here

I'm curious how much closer your relationship will be when you put what T Dub teaches you to use?

Sincerely,
Dr. Paul Pharms, PhD.

PS

Not only will you learn WHY men pull away and what you can do about it, but you'll also discover
"invisible man traps", his Masculine Hero Avatar and I got a kick out of what T Dub calls "man repellent"...LOL!

==>Watch Your Free Video Lesson Here

Why First Kisses Go Bad

 Why First Kisses Go Bad

If you have ever been on a first date, you have probably had an awful kiss moment.  This is one of the most
important things I have to teach men about because it’s mostly our fault.  But the truth is that women never really help us.

If a man takes you on a date there is a 90% chance he wants to kiss you.  He is only waiting and really just paying his taxes until you give him the sign that he has: spent enough money, told enough good stories, spent enough time with you.

What you need to know is that men cannot read your signals.

I know that it’s hard to believe but all of those subtle little signals you are sending out are only understandable to other women.  I have stood next to a student while a woman kept leaning in closer and closer to his mouth and he didn’t realize what was happening. 

She would close her eyes, tilt her head and lean in toward his mouth.  He wouldn’t react and she would rock back out.  I had to sneak up behind him and tell him that I would punch him in the kidney if he didn’t kiss her.

That might seem extreme but it was the only way that woman was ever going to get kissed.

The worst thing that can happen on a first date is the awkward front door moment.  I spend so much time teaching my male students how to avoid it, but it always amazes me how many women will actively create this socially awkward moment.
The earlier you kiss on a date the better.

Please have the courtesy to remove the elephant in the room.

He is only pretending to listen to your story about your sister’s new job.  All he’s thinking about is that moment.  Is she going to kiss me?  Is she not going to kiss me?  Am I wasting my time?

If you ever wonder why men don’t remember anything you say on a first date, that’s why. It’s a constant track running through the backs of their minds.

Is there a solution?

Of course there is!  I wouldn’t leave you hanging.  I am going to teach you a kissing technique that has been passed down from male dating coach to male dating coach for generations.  This is the first kissing move I ever tried, and it worked great.

Just say to him, “Do you want to kiss me?”

Now I know that sounds scary, but don’t worry.  There is an escape hatch.  Besides, don’t you want to know early on if you are with a guy who’s not interested?

There are only three possible answers: yes, no and maybe.

YES – “Then what are you waiting for?” and kiss.

NO – “Oh, you just looked like you were thinking about something.”

MAYBE, “Let’s find out,” and the ball is in his court.

By moving the kiss forward in the date you avoid creating an awkward situation that actually makes you no longer attracted to a man.  If you have that front door moment, there is just too much pressure.  It forces you to recall way too many movies and that’s something you really want to avoid.

So just get it out of the way so you can have a nice date.

What Am I Doing Wrong In Relationships Get Inside His Heart

What Am I Doing Wrong In Relationships Get Inside His Heart

They say breaking up is hard to do. Break-ups are very common in fact sadly enough, it happens to everyone at some point in time. For many women, relationships coming to an end are hard due to lack of closure. So very often, they are left wondering what they did wrong Get Inside His Heart.

 Here some very common mistakes that women tend to make. It’s not complete, but it's definitely a good insight. Continue to read and evaluate how you’ve been doing on the dating game.

1. Thinking you can change who he is.

Many women get involved with men with undesirable habits, and cling to the relationship hoping that he’ll improve with time. They tend to feel like the man requires the woman's help in order to change.

Well, that's actually not how it works. You see, women are attracted to a man not by how nice or good he is, but by gut feelings. She 'feels' that her man is nice and good deep inside, and that they can remedy the shortcomings if they tried hard enough Get Inside His Heart.

Sadly, this gut feeling doesn’t exactly translate to a deep connection with him. In other words, trying to change him is like trying to teach a pig to sing - it wastes time, it doesn’t work, and it annoys the pig.

Gut feelings are well and good, but it’s better to trust your intuition instead Get Inside His Heart

2. Assuming good looks are enough.

Women tend to think that men only care about an attractive physical appearance. Also, many women think that men aren't very verbally communicative. Therefore many women resort to using provocative body language to gain a man's attention which gives off the wrong impression Get Inside His Heart.

It’s not that simple. Looks may be most obvious way to get the train started, but it's hardly the best way. The right thing to do is to use a combination of verbal communication and body language. It takes practice, but a man is less likely to be smitten by a beautiful woman than by a beautiful woman who can also carry a good conversation Get Inside His Heart.

3. Acting like someone that you are not.

I may be stating the obvious, but it's worth repeating: Men aren't happy in a relationship if the woman isn't happy herself. A woman should never lose herself by trying to satisfy a man's every need and desire. A man can't have respect for a woman that isn't confident of who she is. Acting overly needy won't get you anywhere Get Inside His Heart.

4. Being too honest too fast.

Almost all successful,physically attractive, and single guys have healthy dating lives. So women who raise the most red flags are the ones that give too much information on the second or third date. For example: women who say, 'I really feel like I'm falling for you', too easily and too early. It gives off an idea that she’s a clingy type who rushes into relationships.

The smartest thing to do would be to ease up and let the relationship mature on it's own Get Inside His Heart.

5. Not seeing the signs.

Men subconsciously show signs that indicating how evolved your relationship is. The signs give clues on how ready he is to go further in your relationship. By watching him closely and accurately judging what he says, you may find out where he is coming from Get Inside His Heart.

(a) The Social level - he talks about life in general, what he's up to and how he's doing.

 (b) The Emotional level - he starts giving clues that he's ready to be emotionally available to you.

(c) The Physical level - he begins to tell you what and why in reference to the things he likes about you whether it be your body or clothes, etc..

(d) The Love level - he lets you know that he is in it for the long run.

Well, here are the signs. So learn them and know how to answer them for a better relationship next time Get Inside His Heart.

Get Inside His Mind

Get Inside His Mind


For a woman, perhaps the most challenging relationships in her life will be her relationships with men. This is not exclusive to the men she dates, and the one she will end up marrying, this means her dealings with all men. The problem most women find is that men are hard to understand, Get Inside His Mind . And granted, men will say the same thing about women.

 It is true that men and women just think differently, and simply don’t talk enough. This can make a woman’s relationships with men full of miscommunications and misunderstandings. It’s a wonder anyone gets together at all isn’t it? On top of that, brothers, dads, and male coworkers add to the confusion.

No matter how much advice women get about relationships with men, it’s hard to get it right. While I agree that good communication is a definite benefit, Get Inside His Mind . You can say all the words you want, but if you don’t understand those words, you get nowhere.

 The common mistake most women make in relationships with men is trying to read more into their words than is really there, Get Inside His Mind . On the flip side, men often don’t hear enough of what a woman is saying. This doesn’t mean either side is wrong, it just means things are left unsaid, and things are imagined that aren’t there.

You can find help with relationships with men in a lot of places. There are services that are said to help women understand men, and also coaching services to help those who seem to feel they are bad daters, Get Inside His Mind . There is no magic cure, but you may find that you are sending out the wrong signals when you don’t intend to. Body language is an important aspect of relationships with men. You may be telling men you are difficult or off limits without even realizing it, Get Inside His Mind .

If you feel stuck, and don’t understand why your relationships with men don’t work out very well, there is no harm in asking for help, Get Inside His Mind . You can find self-help books on the subject, or you can ask friends who seem to have a successful dating life. Finding out how to better understand the opposite sex may truly help you improve your relationships with men, and help your communications with them equally as well.