How To
Stop Cheating....
Stories about cheating
wives and husbands are dime-a-dozen. It's true, it has been this way since
ancient times. There have been tales of scorned men and women dating back to
the first pages of recorded history. And it continues today, with people you love,
people you're friends with, people you admire on television — cheating just
comes too natural for most people.
The problem with cheating
is that it hurts the person you really want to be with for the long term.
Unfortunately, people are only looking at the short term. Try thinking about
the following scenario.
You're angry, or you feel
rejected — you're tired of taking second place to a job or hobby — but after
enough time goes by, you don't feel angry or rejected anymore. Afterall, they
made it up to you by telling you they have been doing it for the both of you,
for your future together — now how do you deal with that — do you tell them and
clear your conscious...risking it all, or do you live with what you've done for
months until it subsides...if it ever does.
Let's face reality, unless
the person you're with is desperate or has very low self-esteem, he or she is
going to have a real tough time trying to decide whether to stay or go.
Cheating is a destroyer of
relationships — it destroys trust — it ruins everything good the other person
ever felt — if you value the person you're with, you have to ask yourself if
it's worth the risk of destroying what you two had together.
Now here are some ways to curb your cheating habits:
All you cheaters need to
look at the statistics. Only one out of 100 relationships that start with
infidelity work out. You might feel guilty about hurting your ex or your
children. And speaking of children, now is the time to start thinking about the
expensive and long dragged out custody battles — up to 21 years worth if they
go to college. And if your ex is feeling a bit scorned, she isn't going to make
a moment of it easy on you — Divorce is one of the most costly mistakes we will
ever make in our life.
Will your new spouse ever
trust you knowing that you cheated on your first spouse. Just throwing it out
there.
Think ahead to how the
courts will view you.
Think about how your
children will view you.
