Guy Advice On Healing A Relationship

                                                                      
                                                                   
                                                            
                                
 
Guy Advice On Healing A Relationship

If you're struggling to keep your relationship with your wife or girlfriend from falling apart you will need guy advice on healing a relationship.  You may want to talk to your buddies, but the truth is they probably don't know any more than you do.  Instead read this article for some good advice on repairing your broken relationship.

There are two phrases that should be the building blocks to repairing your relationship: "I'm sorry" and/or "I was wrong".  Neither one will mean a thing if they aren't sincere.  The first thing you have to do to heal your relationship is to be a man and own up to your part in the problems.

Many men seem to think that apologizing is a sign of weakness.  Actually nothing could be further from the truth.  If you think about it, one of the hardest things you will ever do is to admit you were wrong and that you caused someone else's pain, especially someone you love.  That is a hard thing to do.  So apologizing isn't a sign of weakness, it's actually a sign of being a man and being strong.

In some ways it might seem easier to just bury your feelings and don't admit that you were wrong or that you are in pain.  Again, a very 'manly' thing to do.  But is it?  While that might be the first thing many men will do, it's not the easiest in the long run.  If you bury those feelings you will never truly be free of them.  They will jump up and haunt you when you least expect it.  No matter how painful it is you need to face them and get over them once and for all.  That's the only real way you can have peace for the rest of your life.

So if you want to heal your relationship you need to honestly access your part in the breakdown of the relationship.  Were you inattentive, did you take your wife/ partner for granted, did you stop making her feel special and loved?

There's a seen in the movie "The Breakup" where Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn are fighting.  She had just put in a long day at work and hosted a dinner party and wanted his help to clean up.  She said to him " I want you to want to do the dishes" and, of course, his response was "Why would I want to help you do the dishes"?  A valid question.  Sort of.

I doubt that character really thought she wanted him to want to do the dishes.  What she really wanted was for him to understand that she was tired and wanted to relax too.  She wanted him to show his appreciation of all she does by helping her and taking some of the burden off of her shoulders.

Are you guilty of pretending to be 'stupid'.  Pretending like you don't really know what your wife wants?  Many men fall into that trap, just like in the movie.  They know what their wife is trying to say, they just choose to pretend like they don't because it seems easier than actually helping.  It's selfish.  And it will lead to long term problems. This all goes back to what I was talking about above: making your wife feel appreciated.

The good news is that if you've made some mistakes in the past you can change and become a better man.  You can become the kind of man that you can be proud of and that she can love and respect.  Use this guy advice on healing a relationship as a starting point and you can not only save your relationship but improve it too.

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Love Relationship Advice

                                                                  
                                                                
                                                            
                                   


 Love Relationship Advice


For most people, it's pretty easy to find love.  The challenge often seems to be to be able to make it last.  Keeping your love for each other strong is not impossible.  You just have to understand why it falls apart and make sure you, and your partner, avoid those traps.  That's where love relationship advice comes in handy.

   For most couples the first few months is pretty easy.  You are falling in love and you think the other person is perfect.  You can see no wrong in them or what they do.  And maybe there isn't anything wrong with the way they, or you, act in the early stages of a relationship.

They say that familiarity breeds contempt and if that's true it would go a long way to explaining why the longer a relationship goes on the more it tends to break down.

Here is a list of some of the things you, and your partner, need to be on the lookout for in your relationship.  These are common traps that many couples fall into without realizing it.  If you know what to watch out for and can avoid these mistakes you will have a much better chance of keeping your relationship strong and healthy for a long time:

1. Unrealistic expectations.  As I said above we think our new love can do no wrong.  As our relationship slowly changes from falling in love to being in love and all the day to day stresses and mundane tasks we must face, it's easy to lose some of that early 'glow'.  This can be a pivotal time in many relationships, sometimes the couple will think that they just don't love each other anymore and break up.

In reality, in any long term relationship, you will spend a much longer time in this 'normal' mode than you will in the early 'glow' mode.  It's important to recognize that this is all a normal progression in an adult relationship.

2. Inability to effectively communicate.  Men and women express themselves differently...that's just the way it is.  The good news is that you can learn to communicate with your partner effectively, if you're willing to take some time to learn how. The whole 'it's a guy thing' or 'it's a girl thing' is only true to a point, and is largely just a cop out.

  In reality any mature, intelligent adult should be able to learn how to talk to their partner, and even more importantly, listen to their partner.  The real question is do you care enough about your partner and the relationship to take the time?

3.  Don't confuse sex with love.  This may sound obvious but men and women tend to look at sex in different ways.  Women, for example, tend to look at sex as a way to connect with someone they love on a deeper physical level.  Yes, it's pleasurable, but the pleasure isn't just physical it's emotional as well.

Men tend to look at sex as definition of who they are as a man.  For them too, it's pleasurable but it's also a way to prove their desirability and masculinity.  Sometimes when a relationship gets to the 'comfortable' stage this difference in views about sex can create problems.  If one partner doesn't seem sexually interested in the other partner it can create severe stress on the relationship.

If your relationship gets to this point, it might help if you and your partner can remember that sex is only one small component of every thing your relationship is made up of.  While for many couples, having an active sex life is an important part of the relationship, it's important to understand that as you age and your relationship grows, it probably won't be  quite as important as it once was. That doesn't mean your partner doesn't love you or find you attractive, it's just a fairly common way for long term relationships to go.

I hope this love relationship advice will help you hold on to the love you've found.  Being able to make a deep, long lasting, connection with another person really is one of life's blessings.  Make your connection last by learning how to avoid the pitfalls of some relationships :)

How Can I Get My Husband To Fall In Love With Me Again

How Can I Get My Husband To Fall In Love With Me Again


Whether you feel that you're in a loveless marriage or your marriage has taken a nose dive, you many be asking yourself "How can I get my husband to fall in love with me again? This article will address some ways that can help you win back the heart of your husband (if you've really lost it, that is).

If you happen to be in what you feel is a "loveless marriage", you should understand that if your husband is there, he probably still does love you. "Falling out of love" is a term that is often applied to hum-drum marriages but what it frequently means from the man's point of view is that he has fallen out of love with the way the marriage is going.

 Your husband may have pulled away from you because he is not happy but can offer no more detailed explanation for his feelings. Men have a hard time accurately interpreting and then communicating what they are feeling. Even if they can't put words to it, what they are often feeling is the relationship doesn't make them feel good about themselves anymore.

When you first started your relationship, you were both putting your best foot forward and putting a lot of time and effort into making the other person feel good about you and about themselves.

So your relationship became stronger and both you and your husband felt wanted, important, interesting and competent, just to name a few. For men, these feelings are what makes him feel like he is in love. So, it's important to understand that when your husband says (or you think) he doesn't love you anymore, that might not be true. It's very likely that he's actually mourning the loss of the relationship that made him feel so great about himself.

So, now that you know this. . .what can you do? First, you get it all out. Tell your husband that you are feeling a distance in your marriage and you miss the closeness and intimacy that you both once enjoyed.  Ask him if he wants to improve your marriage. This could scare him because he thinks it will take a lot of work but don't worry about that. The goal here is to communicate your desire to your husband.

Then you show him that he'll probably like what you have in mind. Define what you miss in your relationship. If that happens to be more affection, then show more real affection to your husband. If you want more appreciation, let him know you appreciate him first. Sure, you have to take the first steps, but in time, you'll see that he responds. It's not unusual in the beginning that your husband will just look at you funny or totally reject your attempts. This will probably be hard on your ego but don't give up! You'll see in time that you've found the answer to "How can I get my husband to fall in love with me again?"

Should You Try Getting Over A Relationship Or Put Your Energy Into Getting Your Ex Back

Should You Try Getting Over A Relationship Or Put Your Energy Into Getting Your Ex Back

 When we split from a lover, we can either try getting over a relationship or try getting them back. It obviously depends on whether you still love your ex as to which one you chose. If you do want your ex back, you need to make every attempt to achieve this. You and only you know whether he or she makes you happy and would make your life complete. 

Your family and friends may try to advise you but remember that they are not impartial. They love you and hopefully want what is best for you but sometimes people act with their own interests in mind. If your friends are all single, they may have been jealous of your love affair and would prefer to keep you single. If they didn’t like your partner, they are not going to encourage you to get him/her back. Couples, as we know, break up for all sorts of reasons. Sometimes there is no coming back from the split and you have to accept it.

 Often especially if it was caused by something trivial or a misunderstanding, you could salvage things if only one of you would swallow their pride and initiate contact. Usually this will have to be the man as society still thinks it is the man who should do the chasing. A woman who makes the first move can be seen as being desperate. Examine your own feelings before you decide which option to choose. Do you want to get back with your ex, to dump them so they know how it feels?

 These are games for teenagers to play so if that is your motivation, do yourself a favor and move on. But if you really do believe this person to be your soul mate, you need to plan a way to get them back in your life. Try enlisting the help of their family and friends. Now there is a fine line between asking for help and becoming a stalker so take it slowly. Just happen to be at the places these people hang out i.e. bump into them by accident and see how MS/Mr ex is doing.

 Make sure you are looking good so that the reports back are favorable. If you haven’t slept for days, plaster on the makeup. You do not want it going back to your lover that you looked miserable and suicidal. You could always try the direct approach and contact your former partner. Ask them out for a friendly cup of coffee, tea or meal and see where it goes.

 You never know they could have been dying to make contact but were afraid that you would not entertain them. People are funny creatures –they will often let fear of the unknown hinder their future happiness. Whatever you decide, remember that we only get one shot at life. It is not a dress rehearsal. Getting over a relationship or getting back with your ex are both achievable, the question is which one do you want to succeed at.

Do You Want To Be The Women Men Adore And Never Want To Leave

                                                
                                                                    
                                                                    
                                            
Do You Want To Be The Women Men Adore And Never Want To Leave

Many women dream of becoming the women men adore and never want to leave.  But just as many women go about it in the totally wrong way and end up losing one guy after another.  What is the secret?  I'll show you.

The first thing you have to do is totally change your way of thinking.  Our society has done a huge disservice to men and women by creating unrealistic expectations of what men and women should be.

For example, for most of your history women have been taught that men are overly sexual and that they really only want sex.  You've been led to believe that if a woman give her man enough sex he'll love you forever and never leave.  That is complete and utter nonsense!

Yes men like sex, but surprise, so do women! Women have just as high of a sex drive as men but the difference is our society has encouraged men to follow their sex drive while women have been taught that 'good girls' will wait until they're married.  The result?  Men judge their 'manliness' on the number of conquests they make and women are frustrated and angry that they are forced to put their needs on hold.

So if you want to keep your man happy you need to get over the idea that he needs sex all the time or that he needs it more than you.  Men and women really aren't that different in what they need and want from a relationship.  Two words can describe what they want: Connection and Support.

As humans we all need to feel connected to others.  If you can remember that and base your relationship on that fact you will have a great chance of making your man love you forever.

A connection can be made emotionally, spiritually, and sexually.  The more of these types of connections you and your man have the stronger your relationship will be.  If you want to keep him in love with you stay in a love-connected state with him.   Don't get sidetracked with negative petty issues; think out and weigh whats really important in the relationship for both of you. 

After all, you have to remember who you were when you met, he was attracted to that person so why would you change and become some boring, clingy, petty person now? 

The women men adore and never want to leave knows all of theses things.  She gives her man the connections and support he needs while keeping her own identity intact.  She doesn't put his needs above hers, but she lets him know that she is his biggest fan and loves and accepts him unconditionally.

Why Men Leave Relationships

 Why Men Leave Relationships

If you are a woman who is struggling to keep your relationship intact and you want to know why men leave relationships, this is the article for you.  As humans, we have the tendency to make things more complicated than they have to be.  This is compounded by some misconceptions that are strongly rooted in our society.

Many people have heard the saying: "Men use love to get sex and women use sex to get love".  The problem is that doesn't have to be the way it is.  While there might be some truth to that it just perpetuates a common flaw in our way of thinking: that men want and need sex more than women and that sex is all men need to be happy.

That's simply not true.  For the most part men and women have similar sex drives but our society, and really throughout history, men have been encouraged to 'sow their wild oats' and women have been told they have to be 'good girls'.  So men are used to giving in to their desires and women are used to putting their desires on hold.

No wonder relationships seem like such a challenge! Half the population doesn't feel like they have any control over their urges and the other half feels like their urges are wrong!

For anyone who wants a stable loving relationship you will need to re-think many of the concepts you were brought up to believe.  The truth is that anyone, men or women, will leave unfulfilled relationships and all but the most shallow people want to be fulfilled in many ways not just sexually.

In order to really have a loving long term relationship you need to have connections: physical, spiritual, and emotional.  These are necessary for the success of any long term relationship.  All people want to feel like they are accepted, understood, desired, and loved by their partners.

When one or more of these needs aren't met the relationship will start to fall apart.  For any woman who wants to know why men leave relationships so they can prevent it from happening to them, just remember to connect with your man on all of these levels, and both of you will be happy, fulfilled, and committed to the relationship forever.

What Type of Woman Do Men Consider Marriage Worthy?

What Type of Woman Do Men Consider Marriage Worthy?



Whether they openly admit it or not, most men want to marry a woman that is both sexy and smart. In other words, they want the ‘whole package’. And the great thing about intelligence is that you don’t have to be supermodel material to pull off sexy with your intellect.


Brains, confidence, and a having a point of view are just hot no matter how you package it. And the right man will see that immediately and, most likely, he will classify you as marriage material because of it.


Having a strong belief in yourself is another quality men find sexy in a woman; it’s a quality that differentiates you from the other women he might only classify as fling material. If you have a strong sense of self and know exactly who you are, men find that extremely attractive.


More importantly, by showing a man that you are strong and confident, he will also see you as a woman worthy of marriage. They figure if you can hold such a powerful belief in yourself, that then you could hold that kind of belief in him as well.


And deep down inside, men want you to believe in them. They want you to believe they can be the strong man you desire and need them to be.


Attract a man by approaching him from a place of strength and brains, rather than overt sex appeal, if you want him to see you as marriage material. And remember that, although first impressions do count, as a woman you hold  power and that power is you femininity. And it WORKS over men more than you realize!


Especially when getting a guy to choose you as his future wife. Use that power wisely and you just might be pleasantly surprised!

A Good Man is a Confident Man

A Good Man is a Confident Man
A lot of women always seem to choose men that are not right for them. They end up dating a string of losers and never seem to know why they can't find a good man.  Ladies, you need to be consciously aware not only of what you are attracted to, but also what you find unacceptable, and you need to take immediate action when a man has those unacceptable traits.

What It Means:

Most women know what they are attracted to. You might be looking for a man who is tall, good-looking, financially successful, has a great sense of humor etc. One trait that triggers attraction in women is confidence.

A man may have all of the other traits that you are looking for, he may be tall, good-looking, and wealthy but if he is so rude, insensitive, and treats women poorly  you probably aren't going to end up dating him. On the other hand,a man that might be slightly less attractive but who is extremely confident will have no trouble coming up to you and starting a conversation, and before long you may be attracted to him.

Being attracted to confidence is that the men who could be considered as a " Good Guy" are viewed by the media as nerdy; but in reality are usually oozing with confidence. If you go out on a date with a man who tells you that he appreciates to be with you and he shows that he's enjoying your company. That in itself is a very good sign and can lead to another date with you.

 The guy who is appreciate, kind, and treats women with respect will have tons of confidence and also have a lot of women interested in him. Why? , because he displays maintaining, providing and protecting qualities aka: Relationship Commitment Material.

Bottom Line:

As a woman, it is in your DNA to be attracted to confidence. It's like a chemical reaction that goes on inside your brain. What you need to be able to do as a woman is to make a list not only of the traits that you find attractive, but also the traits that you find unacceptable. You may feel drawn to a man that is good-looking but you have to be able to make a conscious decision to dump a guy when he exhibits traits that are on your unacceptable list.

Relationship Rescue

Relationship Rescue

Many people begin searching for relationship rescue tactics to try and bring back the spark they once had with a partner when the magic begins to fade. Over time, most relationships grow and change from the loving, romantic bond into a steady routine of daily rituals and habits. In some cases, those habits can make one or both people in the relationship feel as though they're being taken for granted.

Some people may find that they're arguing more often than they're enjoying each other. Others may find that there's nothing left to say to each other or they simply fall into a daily pattern where everything else seems more important than the relationship.

Your relationship doesn't have to be this way.

Often the first avenue many people try in order to re-kindle a relationship is to try and bring back some of the romance. Intimate dinners and provocative lingerie are nice physical attempts at bringing you closer again, but they don't address on the inner, emotional reasons why the relationship may be strained. On the other hand, endlessly talking about your relationship rescue plans and tactics could potentially drive a wedge between you and strain the relationship even further.

There are plenty of relationship rescue tactics you can use to bring that loving spark back into your relationships. Here are some relationship rescue suggestions you can try to help get you back on the right track.

1.    Appreciation

When the initial heady, romantic stage of any relationship begins to settle into a comfortable partnership, many people lose sight of the things they originally appreciated in their partner. They begin to focus on the things that irritate them or annoy them or make them mad.

Unfortunately, focusing on all the negative aspects of your partner can often bring about a feeling of resentment, which can lead to arguments and eventually the destruction of the relationship.

It's important to try and find things in your partner that you appreciate. You might appreciate their kindness or their sense of humor or their intelligence or whatever attribute attracted you to them in the first place.

2.    Awareness

Live each day of your relationship as though it was the last day you have with your partner. Accidents happen when we least expect them. While this doesn't mean it's going to happen to you, consider how you'd feel if something did happen and today really was the final day you had together.

What would you regret most? What would you wish you'd said or done or changed if you never had the opportunity to do them again?

Your answers to those questions should be the very same things you need to be doing with your partner each and every day. When you live each day as though it was your last, the romance will return almost immediately.

3.    Communication

Your partner can't read your mind. Sitting in silence letting a problem brew until you're at bursting point won't make your partner see problems any more clearly and it can compound the negative emotions within you.

It's important to communicate with your partner about your expectations, your needs, your goals and ambitions, your disappointment and anger. Communication is about letting the other person know what you're feeling in a clear, non-blaming manner so that you can both be sure you're on the same page.


Relationship rescue is all about finding ways to be sure you understand and appreciate the little things you do for each other instead of focusing on the negatives. If you can communicate clearly and find ways to appreciate and support your partner, then your relationship rescue attempts will be rewarded.