Why Won't He Commit

 Why Won't He Commit


You met and have been seeing this guy for a while now and things have been going great as far as you are concerned but sometimes you get the feeling that he just isn't seeing things the way you do. Now you are beginning to wonder why won't he commit to you like you want to to him?

The best way for you to find out if he is a commitment phoebe is to ask him straight out why won't he commit to you and your relationship.

When you do this, try not to be threatening or demanding, this will just make him want to turn and run. Sit him down with a cup of coffee and tell him you have felt for a while that something was just not right and ask if there is anything you could do to help.

He may see this as an opportunity to explore his feelings and realize a few things about himself or he may just see this as your way of butting into his business.

Either way, you will get your answer. Here are the five main answers to the question, "Why won't he commit?":

1. He still has feelings for his previous girlfriend - If he does, you are most likely his rebound girlfriend and rebound relationships rarely, if ever, work out for the best. You can usually tell pretty easily if this is the case if he can't stop talking about her, compares you to her, or has a picture of her still on display in his house.

2. He is playing the field - You may not be the only one he is dating and he is having too much fun to be exclusive.

3. He is afraid of being hurt - Bad break ups can sometimes leave deep scars and create a reluctance to enter into another long term relationship.

4. He has trust issues because his parents went through a nasty divorce - Yup, this can have a lasting effect on someone's idea of what marriage is or should be. This is his baggage and you may or may not be able to help him sort through it and get over it. Just know that it will be a long drawn out process to get him to trust you.

5. He doesn't consider you the woman of his dreams - He likes you well enough and enjoys spending time with you but you are just not his "one". This reason will definitely be the most hurtful to you so if you sit him down for a talk be prepared for the answers you might get.

If he even opens up to you at all.

I am sure there are more reasons why a man won't make that commitment in some relationships but these are the five most "popular" reasons.

You can keep wondering why won't he commit or you can make a choice. Get out of the relationship and move on to the next or just enjoy it for what it is for just right now.

Get Engaged

Get Engaged



Congratulations, you are going to get engaged! This is an exciting and scary time. One thing I've found is that after the excitement winds down a bit many people start worrying how the marriage will be.

The statistics today are a little frightening, so many marriages end in divorce. I'm sure you don't want to think about that right now but those thoughts can creep in anyway.

But don't worry, you will get engaged and these simple tips will help ensure that you and your honey do live happily ever after. Now, I've got to admit that I'm not an expert, but I do have some ideas and I think they can help ease your mind a little bit.

As a matter of fact, many of the points I'm going to talk about are often covered in pre marriage counseling that is sometimes required prior to getting married. These are things that many of us don't think about, or talk about, but they are important.

You and your honey should think about the following:

1. What are your attitudes about money? Do you both have similar ideas about how to spend and save money? Do you both have similar ideas about which partner, or both, should take care of managing the household budget and paying bills? None of these issues are Earth shattering but it can cause strife in a relationship so finding some common ground early on is a great idea and a good, easy, way to avoid some conflict later on.

2. What are your attitudes about religion? Do you share the same faith, or are you of different faiths? If so, have you discussed how to handle various holidays? Most of the time before you get to the point where you get engaged you have already spent quite a bit of time together and have already gone through a few holidays so you have most likely already worked this one out.

But, if not, it's a good idea to discuss it now.

3. Do you both want to have kids? If so, how many? Have you discussed if you will both work or will one of you try to stay home and raise the kids? If so which one? Will you choose based on who makes the least income or on other factors? If you are of different faiths will you raise your kids with a knowledge of both faiths and basically let them choose?

4. And last but not least , have both of you fully committed to the marriage? What I mean is that have both of you formed a bond with the other and moved away from your family ties? No one is suggesting that you don't continue to have a relationship with your family but your partner should come first.

This is especially true when it comes to how you want to raise your kids and various religious beliefs. Sometimes the most pressure can come right from the parents of one or both of the spouses. They don't usually mean to cause problems but they often do.

That is why it is so very important that you and your partner commit totally to the relationship and each other. Your parents will sometimes want to enforce their ideas on you and your spouse and that can cause a lot of friction. You both need to learn how to respectfully tell them to back off. The sooner you do, the less stress you will have in your marriage.

I don't believe happy endings just happen on their own. I believe that it is a combination of many things such as being mature, committing fully to your partner and most importantly picking the right person in the first place.

When you get engaged you want to have a wonderful time planning not just your wedding but talking about your marriage too. Talking about some of these issues and figuring out how to handle them will make your relationship stronger and happier.

Girl Gets Ring- The Review

Girl Gets Ring- The Review


Ladies, are you sick to death of attracting all the wrong type of men into your life? If you seem to continually attract loser after loser you may want to invest in the program called, Girl Gets Ring.

This program is offered by two men, coincidentally, who will show you how to start finding and attracting the right type of man into your life and tell you the secrets of keeping him there.

And not just keeping him there, either. Keeping him there and "actively" participating in the relationship as well.

The Girl Gets Ring program gives you insights into how a man's mind really works and what you need to do to get him to commit to you fully and forever.

The program will also show you and tell you (with some freebies that come along with the system) seven things you should never do when you are getting to know a new man or trying to get your current man to "step up" and move the relationship along to the next level.

Some of these things include making him feel loved for who he is down deep inside and not just for what he does and how much money he makes (or has the potential to make).

He also needs to feel that the woman he marries is basically "on his side" and will be a part of helping him fulfill his destiny in life.

So, if you are single and dating, (or are tired of trying), already in a relationship but not married, or married and want to bring back that "special something" that you had in the beginning, this system will give you all of the information that you need to do it all.

Relationships do not have to be as difficult as some people make them out to be but they do require some work on both parts.

This program is for you if you are serious about finding the right kind of man, making him fall for you unconditionally, and getting him to see that you are the woman he's been looking for all of his life.
It does not matter if you believe in fairy tales or not, if you are ready to be married you can use this system and change the way you have gone about trying to find your Mr. Right and actually find, and keep, him.

You will not feel like you have had to settle either. You will find your match made in heaven and then can forget about all the duds you have dated in the past. You will learn the right kinds of questions to ask on your first date to figure out if he is good "marriage material".

Men will more often follow their guts than follow their hearts. What the Girl Gets Ring system teaches you is to how to keep him thinking with his heart and not his gut. Being successful with this one thing will urge him on when the relationship needs to move to the next level.

How To Make A Man Adore You

 How To Make A Man Adore You


There is an old saying that goes "the heart wants what the heart wants", basically that means that you can't make someone fall in love with you. It is either there or it isn't. But is that true? Or is it possible to learn how to make a man adore you?

I think the truth probably lies somewhere in the middle. If your guy already cares about you a lot he may just need a little nudge to push him over the edge so he falls madly in love with you.
But if he just doesn't feel it's right there isn't much you can do and you probably shouldn't even try. If you try too hard you will be likely to push him further away and may end up looking foolish in the process. That is not what you want.

But if you want to learn how to give your guy that little nudge he needs and learn how to make a man adore you, I may be able to help.

I've done a little research and I have found some ideas on how you can accomplish just that, help your guy see the light and realize you are the one for him.

Here they are:

1. One of the things that is most important is for you to be you. There is no point in having him fall in love with a person who doesn't really exist. You want your guy to love you the same way you love him: unconditionally. Let him see your weird and quirky side too. I know that it can be scary letting this side of your personality show but when talking about real love it really is a kind of all or nothing.

If he falls in love with you but doesn't see the real you, he isn't really in love with you at all, is he?

2. Give him some space. No one likes someone who is needy and clingy. This is a turnoff to your guy just as much as it would be a turn off to you. If he wants a boys night out tell him and his friends to have fun. Don't call or text him all night or "accidentally" show up where they are.

You may use that as an opportunity to spend some time with your friends.  And if you feel like you can't trust him than there are problems in your relationship that need to be dealt with.

3. Sometimes women have a hard time finding the right balance between supportive and door mat. Learn how to find and maintain this balance and he will love you and more importantly, like you.

Most good men will be bored with a woman who is phony. Sure, your guy wants you to laugh at his dumb jokes but you don't have to go crazy either. A confidant guy will enjoy it if you give him a little, loving hard time when he does something silly. At times like that it is all about your tone though. If you come off really harsh it will hurt his feelings and cause problems.

But, if you are loving in the way you tease him he will laugh with you and it can actually bring you closer.

In short, treat your guy the way you want him to treat you. Be loving, honest, respectful and have just the right amount of independence so he sees you as his equal and not a needy or clingy pest.

That is how to make a man adore you. Have fun!

Getting His Attention Mr Right

 Getting His Attention Mr Right

If men are not approaching you, there might be something that's making you "unapproachable". Men are always approaching women, but there are certain situations that will stop them in their tracks: a group of women, a woman who is sitting down, a "mean" facial expression, etc.  Are you preventing men from approaching you?

What It Means:

Men work in mysterious ways and the thing that they strive to protect most in life is their "ego". Yes, no man likes a shattered ego. Because of this, men typically approach women that" look safe    - rather than going up to someone that is likely to embarrass or reject them.

For example, most men refrain from approaching a woman that is surrounded by a group of friends. Going up to a group of women is intimidating and requires the man to impress all the ladies, rather than just one. This drives the odds of actually striking up a conversation with the lady he has his eye on through the floor.

Bottom Line: If you want men to approach you more frequently, learn how men view certain situations and position yourself in a more approachable manner.

Fierce Competition Dating Advice Online

 Fierce Competition Dating Advice Online

Online dating for women is unfair. Statistics show that 90% of the women participating in online dating sites are all emailing the same 10% of the men on those sites. As you can see, the competition is fierce for women in the world of online dating and that's all the reason that you need to learn the best practices of online dating.

What It Means:

Many women dive into online dating out of desperation to find "Mr. Right." This "dive" is usually taken without any preparation or knowledge regarding the online dating scene. There are particular things that a woman must do to be competitive on online dating sites. In other words, if you don't prepare yourself in way that will beat the "competition" - you may never get an email or response from all the "Mr. Right"s you find online!

Bottom Line: Take the time to learn the "do's and don't s" of online dating before you hit the scene to prevent it from becoming a discouraging waste of time.

How To Overcome Communication Problems In Relationships

How To Overcome Communication Problems In Relationships


Communication problems in relationships are so common that no matter how great you and your sweetie get along, you’re bound to run into some miscommunication somewhere along the line. The good news is, with the right approach, these problems usually aren’t too hard to solve.

Bridge the gender divide!

Men and women approach relationships in distinctly different ways. Without and open mind, it’s all too easy to write the opposite gender off as “illogical” or even start thinking of their differences as childish or petty. The fact is neither gender is perfectly logical. Taking some time to learn about exactly how the opposite gender looks at love matters can help you avoid a lot of problems in relationships.

Listen thoughtfully!

Don’t forget that you’re one half of the communication problem. When you’ve been together for a while, you might start to think you know what your partner is going to say. Unless you have ESP, though, you’ll get a lot farther by actually hearing your partner out. When sweetie tells you something, restate what they said to make sure you understood correctly and let them know you heard.

Release the need for blame!

When one of you has a problem, the relationship has a problem and it’s in both your best interests to work it out peacefully. Instead of going around in circles trying to decide whose fault it is, focus on how you’re going to solve it. Likewise, try to avoid blaming your partner for your overall mood. 

Stick to the facts!

When trying to talk over problems in relationships, don’t bring up any thing you can’t prove. Instead, stay with what can’t be argued like your own feelings and what your partner already agrees they do. For example, saying “You disrespected me in front of my friends.” can be argued because standards of respect differ. On the other hand, saying “I was embarrassed when you told Dave you don’t think I should ask for a raise.” is not only unarguable, but also gets your point across more clearly. 

Be frank, but kind!

You’re not doing anyone any favors by taking a “put up and shut up” attitude to problems in relationships. All you end up doing is allowing wounds to fester and they can eventually reach the point where they’ll never heal at all. Instead, speak your mind when you have a problem, but do so with gentleness, kindness, and respect. Remember, your partner probably isn’t trying to hurt or annoy you and may be pretty upset to hear you’re unhappy.

Be a friend, not a coach!

Chances are, your partner isn’t with you because they’re hoping you can correct all their bad habits and personality flaws. You’re not their parent, teacher, coach, or boss. You’re their friend, lover and mate.

You may think you’re giving constructive criticism, but your partner might think your love or respect for them has diminished because of this one little flaw they have. Instead of criticizing, encourage improvement by giving your partner some positive feedback when they do something you really like.

There, that doesn’t sound too hard, does it? These techniques may be simple, but they really do work to solve communication problems in relationships. Give them a try.

How Can You Tell When You Have Found The Right Person?

 How Can You Tell When You Have Found The Right Person?



Love is such a wonderful thing that when shared by two people, the feelings become mutual and the gratifications achieved. All of these are established during the start of dating.

Dating becomes the primary selection ground for people who wish to end up with somebody they can grow old with. It provides them the means to find the right person whom they can share their sentiments, their feelings, problems, etc.

Normally, the stages of dating illustrate continuous experiences. As the couple proceeds on the next level, they get to know another chapter in their mate’s life.

However, even if it seems that two people are already mutual with regards to their feelings, there are instances that one of them would ask if their mate is the right person for them. They can feel that they are happy as of the moment but when the concept of finding the right person sinks in; a lot of questions take place.

 Even if everything seems to be in perfect condition and that dates are always pleasurable and gratifying, no one can be sure if his or her mate is the right person unless he or she will make extra effort to analyze the situation and the person he or she is currently involved with.

So, for people who wish to know if the person they are dating right now is the right person or if what they are doing is right or wrong, here are some tips on how to identify the real score of the person they are dealing with.

1. It would be better for an individual to assess his or her feelings about the other person.

In order to know if an individual has already found the right person, it is best to assess their feelings towards the other person.

For example, an individual should try to identify the other person’s qualities. These qualities that can usually be seen everyday with the person would mean that these are the same qualities that the concerned individual has to deal with.

Hence, it would be better to assess if the concerned individual likes what he or she is seeing or if they can tolerate the personality of the other person.

In the event that the other person has some qualities that are not that desirable, it would be better for the individual to be sure of their feelings about the unlikely behavior. If they think that they can withstand and endure those things even if it will not change, chances are, they have found the right person.

The other person may not literally be righteous but the fact that the concerned individual can accept whatever the other person is, then, it must be love.

2. If the concerned person will get to accept the other person’s faults or shortcomings not because of some hopes that someday he or she will change, then, it must be the right person.

One should realize that accepting somebody should never be conditional. This means that when a person accepts someone who has qualities not included in his or her concept of an ideal mate, he or she should not pose some conditions or expects something regarding future changes.
Because if this is the basis of acceptance, chances are, the concerned individual will only be disappointed in the future and will only make matters worst.

3. If there are no obstacles that will in time kill the flame of love, then, it must be the right person.

If in the event that an individual finds somebody and they feel that the relationship is finally the real thing, it would still be better to assess if there will be no more impediments that would curb the growth of a wonderful relationship.

This simply means that the person should be sure that there will be no elements or factors that will trigger some problems on their relationship in the future like vices, addiction, family problems, previous relationships, etc.

If the coast is clear, then, the concerned person had finally found his or her right mate and that in time the relationship will flourish and be successful.

All of these things are boiled down to the fact that love is not 100% perfect. People should realize that there are no such things as perfect people. As humans, people are susceptible to mistakes, imperfections, flaws, and whatever weaknesses man is destined to entail in his or her personality.

So, the best thing to use when identifying the right person is careful analysis of the individual as a whole and not just the physical attributes where substantial attraction is usually based from.

Do Women Like Alpha Males?



Do Women Like Alpha Males?


Alpha is the first letter of the Greek alphabet. In astronomy, it is the brightest star in a constellation. In common parlance, alpha means to be the first.

Alpha males are guys who seem to be leading the pack, the hunter, the ever-reliable male good guy. They are all around us, in the ranks of burly blue collar workers to the impeccable corporate leaders. So why do women like alpha males; or do they?

Women do not only like alpha males; they adore them! Alpha males are the stuff that women's romantic imaginations are of. These are men who get women's attention wherever they go.

The attraction lies in the power seemingly possessed by alpha males. It's not really just about the money but it is about strength in character and the ability to be respected by his peers.

A woman defines an alpha male as someone who is vocal about what he wants and who does everything to get it. An alpha male is not cocky or loud, but there is a semblance of authority in his voice that seems to attract others, male or female. An alpha male is filled with confidence about his looks though he may not be handsome and is confident about his intelligence though he may not be a Wharton graduate.

In the animal kingdom the alpha males are those who lead the pack with an aggressive behavior. The animals have their own social structure where the alpha or the dominant males get to mate with the females, with the principle that the alpha males will most probably produce better offspring's. Same goes for the alpha males in the society of humans.

Women describe alpha males as those with an innate superiority and who literally leads the pack. These are males who are aggressive and assertive despite their limitations.

To be able to understand an alpha male, one has to get to know his characteristics such as but not limited to being:

Born leaders

Alpha males are born to lead the pack. They are known to be the peacemakers and the ones responsible for stopping fights after and aggression usually started off by a bully. These men are usually dignified men who have leadership capabilities and they sometimes rule their world. An alpha male is a no nonsense leader who cannot be dictated upon and who stands by his principles.

Gandhi is an alpha male. He is a charismatic leader who refused to be pressured into giving up his cause. He was able to win his battle by espousing non-violence. Microsoft Bill Gates is an example of an alpha male who continues to change the world and its people. There are many alpha males in a variety of settings, all of whom have provided inspiration and great leadership to their sectors. Most alpha males are attracted and married to strong and outstanding women.

Confident

Alpha males are so sure of themselves but not to point of being cocky. They have high self esteem, believing that they have the power to do anything they want and to achieve their dreams. They know they have that special something within them but they do not gloat nor talk about their strength.

Women are attracted to the alpha's because of the confidence that emanates from them. This confidence manifests itself in the way he carries himself and the way he deals with others. This confidence is shown in the way he does things and treats other people. The alpha male's high self esteem makes him confident that he can get the best woman in town. The truth is, women usually flock around him.

Assertive

Being confident of himself and in what he can achieve, the alpha male is always assertive but not to the point of being pushy. He knows what he wants and how to get it. He asserts his rights and the rights of his friends. This may be the reason why alpha males are so popular with the pack. He leads them and gives them protection. Women love the alpha male for being assertive, of being able to know he can do it and doing something to achieve what he wants to do.

Born leaders, confident and assertive. These are the qualities that make women swoon over the alpha male. Need I say more?

Is There Hope To Save A Marriage

Is There Hope To Save A Marriage


With divorce as common as it is these days, it's easy to understand why so many with marital troubles start to wonder, Is there hope to save a marriage once it really hits the skids? Is there really no turning back? 

The good news is that there are realistic reasons to believe that you can bring your marriage back from the brink of divorce. Not only that, but you can use the opportunity to build an even closer and richer relationship than you had before. So the answer to the question, Is there hope to save a marriage? is definitely Yes!

Second chances work!

In the late 1980's, the National Survey of Families and Households in the US tracked 645 spouses who rated their marriages as unhappy. The survey found that those who agreed to put off divorce and give the marriage a second chance rated their marriage as happy five years later. Sometimes it's just a matter of taking a deep breath and agreeing to invest some time in working through your problems.

Where's the love?

Marriage counselors rely on the fact that no matter how much some couples argue, most still have a basic respect and concern for each other. After all, unless you're in an arranged marriage, you chose your partner because you saw a good amount of positive qualities in them.
 Those qualities are still there, even though you might not see them as clearly today or other less appetizing personality traits have cropped up in front of them. If you can remember the good times, you stand a good chance of reviving the positive feelings you had for each other and using those as a springboard for making up.

You can change things by yourself!

One of the biggest misconceptions about rescuing a marriage is that both sides have to want to save it. While it's true that both sides have to give up the idea of divorce eventually, one spouse alone can still take steps to turn things around and buy a little time while the other reconsiders. The reason is that if you change your approach to your spouse, they'll naturally change their behavior, too, and you start a positive cycle of improvement.

Right advice helps!

The trouble with relying on your own judgment alone to make up with your spouse is that you're too close to the problem. To make matters worse, this is such an emotionally charged issue that even the most stable, logical person can easily  overreact. That's why having input from a knowledgeable, neutral third party is so invaluable. A marriage counselor is the obvious choice, but if you can't afford one or your partner refuses to go, there are other sources of advice such as the marriage self-help e books available online or at your local bookstore.

Before you start thinking the only answer to the question, Is there hope to save a marriage? is No, take a deep breath and look at the realities. If you can get your spouse to agree to work out your problems together, you stand an excellent chance of avoiding divorce. Even if you,re the only one who wants to stay together, though, you can still turn things around just by changing your own behavior.