Why Women Leave Men

                                                                    
                                                                   
                                                                 
                                       
Why Women Leave Men

If you are worried that your wife or partner is about to leave you, or has already left you, you may want an answer to the question:"why women leave men?"  The truth of the matter is that it's probably not what you think, and there can be several reasons.

In any long term relationship things pile up.  Little frustrations, hurts, insensitive remarks can all add up over a period of time and each little thing is like a brick in a wall.  After a while you will have one very big wall.  That's the point where one party will throw their hands up and say 'Enough!" and leave.  The important thing is to make sure your relationship never gets to that point.

One thing you have to do is un-learn much of what you've been told about women and what they want.  If you think women are needy, and high maintenance you need to re-evaluate your thinking (of course some women are that way, but not most of them).  While this may sound stupid here is something you should try: stop thinking of your woman as a woman, instead think of her as a person.  Treat her the same way you like people to treat you.

One of the biggest mistakes men make is they either treat their woman like a whore, a surrogate mommy, or they go to the complete opposite side of the spectrum and put her on a pedestal where they treat her like she's made of porcelain.  The best thing to do is treat her like a human being: a unique individual that has her own mind, needs, and wants. Get to know the real woman, not the person you want her to be, or think she should be.

Don't lump all women together.  Don't assume your wife or partner likes a certain thing or should act a certain way just because some other woman (or your mom) does.  More than likely you have several male friends.  Do you treat each one of them the exact same way, or do you modify your behavior (slightly) for each unique relationship you have?

Women leave men because they are unsatisfied in one way or another.  Each relationship is different but at the end of the day your wife or partner will leave because she is not getting enough of her needs met, it's as simple as that.

Most women want their husband or partner to be a friend and confidant.  They want someone who acts like they actually like them.  Many men don't act like they even like their women and they certainly don't treat them like a trusted friend.

Women have sexual needs just like men.  Our society has done a huge disservice to men and women because it tells men they have this huge sex drive and that it's OK to pick up women whenever they want to and that women have to be 'good girls' and take it on the chin, all the time.

The fact of the matter is that its not true. Women have the same sex drive as men, they are just conditioned to not act on it whenever the whim hits them.  What women don't want is to think that their man only wants them for sex.  Women will often disconnect from their men physically because even though they like sex they also like non-sexual physical contact and many men think they have to turn every incident of physical contact into a sexual encounter.  After a while your woman won't even want you to touch her, and she'll find someone else.

So if you want to avoid having your wife or partner leave and you want to  answer the question: "why women leave men?" just follow some of these simple tips and treat your women like someone who you like and love and your relationship should last a long time.

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Women Men Love And Women Men Leave

                                                                      

                                                                                                                                 
                                


Women Men Love And Women Men Leave

There are two types of women in the world, women men love women men leave.  Which one are you?  It doesn't really matter which side you fall on at this point, if you read and use the information in this article you can become the women men love for the rest of your life.

The first step to make sure your man will love you the way you want to be loved, and to know what it is your man needs in the relationship and then give it to him.  This seemingly simple thing is messed up more often than you would believe.  Many women will think this means to be completely subservient to their man and do whatever he wants even if she doesn't want to do it.

Nothing could be further from the truth.  In reality no man (unless he's "damaged goods" which you wouldn't want to be in a relationship with anyway) wants a women who is a door mat.  A real man will like his women to have a mind of her own, but he also wants her to be his biggest fan.

Women tend to think that if they give their man all the sex he wants, and if they dress up in sexy lingerie they are meeting all their mans needs.  Again, if that is truly all your man needs you might want to find a man with a little more depth.  It's a misconception that all men want is sex.  Yes, sex is an important part of a relationship, for men and women, but it shouldn't be the do all, end all in any relationship, if it is your relationship will fail, it's just a matter of time.You must be more than just a sexual show piece.

In order to really form a long lasting bond you need to base  your relationship on more than just physical intimacy.  Whether we like it or not, we will all get older and as we do sex will become more difficult for various physical reasons. If your whole relationship is just based on physical intimacy, how can it survive once that is taken out of the equation?

The women that men leave, believe it or not,  are the women who try too hard to be whatever he wants. Your man needs to feel special and loved, admired, and desired, but it won't mean very much to him if it doesn't seem sincere.  If he feels like you are just being pliable aka: fake; he will quickly get bored and move on to someone more 'real'.

So for all you women out there, you do have a choice.  You can be either type of women:  women men love women men leave.  It's entirely up to you.  It doesn't mean giving up your own identity, it just means trying to understand your man and what he really wants and needs from you.

Beating The Break-Up Blues

                                                                     
                                                                   
                                                                   
                                           

                                         
Beating The Break-Up Blues




Break-ups are the worst.

You feel all out of sorts because life as you've known it prior to the break-up gets turned all upside down, and chances are you're not quite sure which way is up right now.

While I do understand how painful breaking up can be, there are a few things you can do to help transition back into at least a semblance of “normal” life. The key is to put your focus on something else.

It may take a little time, but doing this will take some of the edge off the pain you're feeling and let you move on through life without having to deal with a lot of the blocks and re-starts some folks can't seem to get past.

Instead, they get stuck in “life without him/her mode” and have a hard time moving forward. Don't let this happen to you. Break-ups are painful, yes. But the truth is, the world hasn't ended, even if it does tend to feel like yours is falling apart at the moment. Life will and does go on – with or without you.

You, however, are a survivor. You won't stay trapped in the past, because you'll be moving forward.

For the first few weeks, it may be best if you don't go to the places you and s/he often frequented together, and don't try to hang out with what should be mutual friends. You can pick up these extended relationships later, but for now, concentrate on things you know make you feel good that do not have a connection to him/her.

If you have trouble coming up with something to focus on, take some time to think about the kinds of things you enjoyed before you began your relationship. Did you have a hobby you've kind of let go?  Was there something you were passionate about before you and s/he met? Really give it some thought, and then start to do those things.

The more involved you become in doing things that make you feel good, the better you will feel. In time (faster than you think) you'll be able to call on those friends you and s/he both enjoyed spending time with, and even face-to-face meetings with your ex will be easier to handle.

Just remember to put your focus on doing things that make you feel good, and you'll beat those break-up blues in no time!

How To Be A Girlfriend Without Driving Him Away

                                                                     
                                                                    
                                                                    
                                            

How To Be A Girlfriend Without Driving Him Away

Isn't it funny what we wonder about?  I mean if you are thinking about how to be a girlfriend, it would suggest that something isn't working in your relationship. Or perhaps you thought it was working but you have just been dumped.

Hollywood makes having a perfect relationship seem so easy. In fact all the famous love stories do i.e. Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Pretty Woman all finish when the couple get together.  They don't hang around for the difficult part i.e. when she discovers he snores in bed and puts his dirty socks under the bed rather than in the laundry. He finds out that she may be gorgeous but has a wicked temper and is quite demanding at times.

So what do you have to do to be a great girlfriend?  You must accept your man for who he is. Far too many women get involved with "Mr OK but will soon change him to be Mr right" (in their mind).  That is insulting for both of you.  He doesn't deserve to be your pet project but deserves someone who will accept him for who he currently is. Does he have good character/ manners? His he kind to you?  It would be better to be a loving girlfriend than to be the nagging  spouse/partner no man wants.

You can be part of a couple and have an independent life.  Some women find a man and then spend all their time with him and that's good. Intimacy is a very good thing.  While it is normal to enjoy spending time with the man in your life, you need to have some time away too if only to have something to talk about when you do meet up.  Men appreciate space and time with their buddies or hobbies.  When he is having some time out, don't keep texting him as he will think you are stalking him.

Have conversations with your man rather than one sided lectures. It is difficult for most men to get excited about the latest plot on a soap opera or what the current fashion is.   Try to talk about topics that interest the both of you and every so often shut up and let him talk as well.  The LORD gave you one mouth and two ears for a reason, use them in proportion. He will appreciate it.

Just because your man wants you as his girlfriend doesn't mean that he is going to fall in love with your family and friends too. So long as he is polite to them, don't push him into being anything else.  Relationships develop over time but there is a chance he may never like your best friend.  That is life and you can't change it.

Always be honest with your man and for goodness sake drop the mind games.  Whoever told a woman that men are intrigued by mind games obviously drank too much alcohol.  

There is a tried and tested recipe for success in all relationships. I am guessing you are not sure what it is if you are asking how to be a girlfriend.  Don't you think now would be a good time to find out?

How To Be A Better Girlfriend Before Danger Creeps In

                                                                    

                                                                   
                                                                   
                                           
 
How To Be A Better Girlfriend Before Danger Creeps In

How to be a better girlfriend is something many women ask a lot. When you initially get together it is easy to keep the spark alive. You have so much to explore and learn about each other and the sexual attraction should also be very strong.  But when you have been together for a while, the initial lust factor has probably reduced somewhat and you know as much as there is to know.  Life can get a little mundane and this is when danger can creep in.  Most relationships break up due to lack of communication rather than a major problem like having an affair.

So you start wondering how to be a better girlfriend? Perhaps there are some good books you could read to help you spice up your love life. Or, if it is your thing, why not surprise him with a movie?  You could make your own but don't go overboard as these things have a habit of reappearing when you least want them to. Just ask Paris Hilton!

Becoming a better lover is something some women tend to leave to the men to worry about but it is a two way street.  And for such a little word, sex can cause major problems for any couple.  But it is not just about sex. There is an urban myth going around which seems to suggest that men don't want affection. While some may not do public displays, most love being cuddled or caressed in the comfort of their own homes.

Men like to be appreciated too.  So why not think up a couple of things you could do for him. For example, you could try getting him seats to a game for him and  his buddy if it is not your thing. Not only are you telling him that you want him to enjoy himself but you also trust him to go out without you and have a great time.  This is important as often men can feel trapped without there women even realizing it.  While women want to spend every minute with the man they love, often they couldn't imagine anything worse.  It is not that he doesn't  appreciate you but sometimes men need some space. Give him lots of this and he will happily nominate you for girlfriend of the year award.

Men also like their women to be respectful; just like you do also.  What I mean is that they don't like their partner to put them down, especially when their friends are around, or to act coarse and unladylike.  It is never attractive when a woman acts or talks like a marine. But it is even worse when you do so in front of an audience.

So stop wondering how to be a better girlfriend and go apply these tips.  If you are still concerned it would be worth investing in some additional relationship coaching to make sure you keep yours in tip top condition.

How To Be Nice To Your Girlfriend And Make Her Happier

                                                                     
                                                                 
                                          
  
  
How To Be Nice To Your Girlfriend And Make Her Happier

If you are wondering how to be nice to your girlfriend you have probably picked up some signs that it is not all rosy in your relationship.  You must act fast as she may get fed up and decide to become your ex.

Ideally you should read a few books on relationships in order to get the full picture but I will try to give you a snapshot now. You need to treat the woman in your life with respect. If you are living together, then do not expect her to do everything around the house.  Sure, she may be a better cook than you are but that doesn't mean that you can't do dinner some evenings.  Or you could let her cook but be the one to set the table and tidy away afterwards.

Some men appear to have a gift for instinctively knowing how to treat a woman, but for most it can be a little more complicated.  At least read up on some techniques. Your girlfriend will be amazed. In fact she may think that another woman was teaching you how to behave!  Not to worry, just show her the reading material that your studying and a big smile will come on her face. Which may even bring a big kiss, believed me.

 In fact she will be very impressed that you cared enough to try to learn new skills; relationship improvement skills always a big hit. Obviously it will depend on what the situation is with your relationship. If you are asking how to be nice to your girlfriend you are obviously worried that you are missing something.  Why not try sitting down with your partner and asking her how she is feeling.

 Ask her if she is happy or is there something wrong? Some women like gestures aka gift whereas others, simply will want your attention. Men, must learn that women like to chat even if there is nothing important to say. The key to your relationship success will be for you to LISTEN.

  They actually enjoy talking to us and listening to our views so long as we also listen to them.  But they hate when we try to fix every problem. note:( we men are wired to fix/solve problems, so tell your mouth to stay shut.)  Just because they tell us they are having an issue at work or with a friend, doesn't mean that they want us to solve it for them.  Most likely they just want reassurance that they are handling the situation properly by themselves.  They may simply be using you as a sounding board.

If you want to still be together when you are old and grey, you need to learn how to communicate properly.  Then you won't be wondering how to be nice to your girlfriend.

First Step Toward A Second Chance

                                                                     
                                                                    
                                                                    

                                            
 

First Step Toward A Second Chance

The first thing you need to do if you've lost the love of your life is communicate – with yourself. You need to get clear in your own head on what is really going on by ignoring all the noise. Forget the arguments, forget the fights and just get to the heart of the matter.

You'll have to be brutally honest with yourself here because what you're searching for is the truth. You want to dig past the clutter and the excuses and pinpoint the true reason or reasons your relationship began to go south.

Don't gloss over the little things, because often it is simply a combination of so many little things piled one on top of the other with no one ever going back to apologize and make things right that add up to one seemingly unmovable Big Thing.

Many times these small mountains of little things, too long ignored, make a relationship start to sour. If they keep adding up, things go bad a lot faster. So really think about the life of your relationship, and be honest with yourself about what really happened. What were the core events or words that put a hitch in the smooth turn of the wheel?

Once you've pinpointed all the things you feel are the likely culprits for pushing your relationship to take a turn for the worst, your next step is to communicate with your ex. Let him or her know that you want to sort out all the problems, get them out in the open and talk about them so you can figure out, together, what went wrong in your relationship because you never want to repeat these mistakes again.

Here's a valuable hint to remember during these communications: Discuss does not mean argue. If you can't act like a mature, responsible adult for the duration of a simple, single conversation to help make your relationship better now, how can you possibly expect to have a meaningful, long-term relationship?

So the next step is to find out what he or she thinks started the damage to your relationship. The point is for each of you to know what the other feels caused the relationship to go bad so you both will know exactly what needs working on – by both parties – to fix the relationship.

Next, ask if your partner feels your relationship has a chance, if they are interested (like you) in trying to change things for the better, working together to build a better life together, and then decide if you're both willing and able to do what you now know it will take to make the necessary changes and put the relationship back on track.

Communication is one of the cornerstones of all meaningful relationships. If you haven't been communicating with your partner, that could be one part of the problem. Make sure he or she knows you now understand this and that from here on out, you will definitely want to discuss your problems with each other, as well as possible solutions.

Why? Because by doing this, by communicating openly and honestly with each other about your hopes, fears, expectations and whatnot, both of you will be better equipped to make your relationship much better than it has ever been, to make your relationship the kind that lasts forever.

Before You And Your Boyfriend Get Back Together

                                                                      
                                                                   
                                                               
                                     
 
Before You And Your Boyfriend Get Back Together



Are you considering getting back together with your ex boyfriend?  The idea probably seems quite exciting, especially if both of you are remembering all of the good times that you had together.  But you should definitely do some serious thinking before you and your boyfriend decide to get back together.

Many couples do successfully reunite and end up with very strong relationships after a break-up.  However, some couples end up getting back together for the wrong reasons or without fully dealing with the factors that led to the dissolution of the relationship.  If you want your rejuvenated relationship to be a success, make sure that you first take the time to consider the following issues:

• Old wounds need to be healed.

In other words, there was some reason why you and your boyfriend broke up in the first place; has this issue been resolved?  If not, it is likely that your relationship may fail again.  You and your boyfriend must find a way to either deal with the problems that led to the break-up or you must jointly decide that the break-up issues are no longer conflicts.  It isn’t enough to simply have regrets about the relationship and how it ended; things must change.


• Let go of old expectations.

If you and your boyfriend decide to give the relationship another try, you will need to learn to treat it as a new relationship--not as an extension of your old one.  This doesn’t mean that you need to completely start fresh; however, you do need to rebuild trust and friendship.  You will need to reassess your goals as a couple and work on creating a new life together.

• Don’t let emotions make decisions about reuniting or about the new relationship.

Of course it can feel quite thrilling to talk again with your ex, and you both may be feeling the euphoria of falling for each other once again.  Yet allowing those feelings to control whether you and your boyfriend get back together could be a mistake.  You both need to think rationally about how a new relationship would be--without letting the floods of emotion overcome you.

 Similarly, when making decisions about the new relationship, it is best to do so calmly and with sensible and reasonable thought.  If either of you allow emotions to cloud your judgment, you may come to regret it later on.

If you really want to get back together with your boyfriend, make sure that you and he are both really ready for another try at the relationship.  By doing so, you could end up saving yourself a great deal of heartache if, for some reason, the relationship does not fare well again.

It may seem quite easy to believe that your boyfriend has changed because of your great desire to reignite the relationship; however, if it isn’t actually true you will just be setting yourself up for failure.  Instead, set yourself up for success by being honest with your boyfriend and making sure that the two of you do not follow the same path that led to your first break-up.

Effective Tips On How To Save My Marriage

 

Effective Tips On How To Save My Marriage



If your relationship between the two of you to the point of questioning how long you will be together, you may be asking how to save my marriage. Remember that a marriage is a union of two people, so finding solutions to your marriage problems together is essential. These problems cannot be solved by just one of you.

Here are some tips that can help bring you together and increase the chances of your marriage lasting:

- No marriage is perfect. Unlike fairy tales, typical marriages have their flaws just like each of us do. Do not expect perfection from each other. Accept that there will be lumps and bumps along the way.

- Marriage requires work. For your relationship to work, both of you need to realize that it takes work to make a marriage strong. The more work that you put into your marriage can result in an honest and happy relationship. If you do not take this seriously, it can be detrimental. The areas that typically need the most work involve trust and respect in one another . Without these things, your relationship will fall apart.

- Communicate and listen effectively. Create an environment where you can talk to each other without getting upset. Speak calmly and clearly about how you feel and allow your partner to do the same. Make sure to listen to what they have to say, regardless of what they say. Discuss how each of you feel and find common ground where both of you feel that you can find solutions for issues you are facing. The more open and honest you are with each other, the better.

- Do not dwell on past problems. Do not let past mistakes or misunderstandings determine the future of your marriage. While your past problems may be quite serious, dwelling on them will not help your marriage. Focus on the here and now and take each day as it comes.

- Be more giving to one another. Be considerate of each others needs and feelings. You can do caring gestures to simply show that you are thinking of them. If you are unsure as to what you should do for your spouse, ask them what you can do to make them happy. Doing something that will make them feel loved  and special can go a long way towards strengthening your relationship. Sometimes doing the simplest things can mean the most to them.

If you have tried all of the above and still are asking how to save my marriage, a professional marriage counselor may be your best option. The decision to go to a counselor must be made by both of you as it will not work if you both do not participate fully.

If you are both truly committed to making changes to save your marriage, a counselor can offer unbiased advice to help you. By getting advice from counselor, it may help you see your problems in a different light and help you find solutions.