How Can I Get My Husband To Fall In Love With Me Again

How Can I Get My Husband To Fall In Love With Me Again


Whether you feel that you're in a loveless marriage or your marriage has taken a nose dive, you many be asking yourself "How can I get my husband to fall in love with me again? This article will address some ways that can help you win back the heart of your husband (if you've really lost it, that is).

If you happen to be in what you feel is a "loveless marriage", you should understand that if your husband is there, he probably still does love you. "Falling out of love" is a term that is often applied to hum-drum marriages but what it frequently means from the man's point of view is that he has fallen out of love with the way the marriage is going.

 Your husband may have pulled away from you because he is not happy but can offer no more detailed explanation for his feelings. Men have a hard time accurately interpreting and then communicating what they are feeling. Even if they can't put words to it, what they are often feeling is the relationship doesn't make them feel good about themselves anymore.

When you first started your relationship, you were both putting your best foot forward and putting a lot of time and effort into making the other person feel good about you and about themselves.

So your relationship became stronger and both you and your husband felt wanted, important, interesting and competent, just to name a few. For men, these feelings are what makes him feel like he is in love. So, it's important to understand that when your husband says (or you think) he doesn't love you anymore, that might not be true. It's very likely that he's actually mourning the loss of the relationship that made him feel so great about himself.

So, now that you know this. . .what can you do? First, you get it all out. Tell your husband that you are feeling a distance in your marriage and you miss the closeness and intimacy that you both once enjoyed.  Ask him if he wants to improve your marriage. This could scare him because he thinks it will take a lot of work but don't worry about that. The goal here is to communicate your desire to your husband.

Then you show him that he'll probably like what you have in mind. Define what you miss in your relationship. If that happens to be more affection, then show more real affection to your husband. If you want more appreciation, let him know you appreciate him first. Sure, you have to take the first steps, but in time, you'll see that he responds. It's not unusual in the beginning that your husband will just look at you funny or totally reject your attempts. This will probably be hard on your ego but don't give up! You'll see in time that you've found the answer to "How can I get my husband to fall in love with me again?"

Should You Try Getting Over A Relationship Or Put Your Energy Into Getting Your Ex Back

Should You Try Getting Over A Relationship Or Put Your Energy Into Getting Your Ex Back

 When we split from a lover, we can either try getting over a relationship or try getting them back. It obviously depends on whether you still love your ex as to which one you chose. If you do want your ex back, you need to make every attempt to achieve this. You and only you know whether he or she makes you happy and would make your life complete. 

Your family and friends may try to advise you but remember that they are not impartial. They love you and hopefully want what is best for you but sometimes people act with their own interests in mind. If your friends are all single, they may have been jealous of your love affair and would prefer to keep you single. If they didn’t like your partner, they are not going to encourage you to get him/her back. Couples, as we know, break up for all sorts of reasons. Sometimes there is no coming back from the split and you have to accept it.

 Often especially if it was caused by something trivial or a misunderstanding, you could salvage things if only one of you would swallow their pride and initiate contact. Usually this will have to be the man as society still thinks it is the man who should do the chasing. A woman who makes the first move can be seen as being desperate. Examine your own feelings before you decide which option to choose. Do you want to get back with your ex, to dump them so they know how it feels?

 These are games for teenagers to play so if that is your motivation, do yourself a favor and move on. But if you really do believe this person to be your soul mate, you need to plan a way to get them back in your life. Try enlisting the help of their family and friends. Now there is a fine line between asking for help and becoming a stalker so take it slowly. Just happen to be at the places these people hang out i.e. bump into them by accident and see how MS/Mr ex is doing.

 Make sure you are looking good so that the reports back are favorable. If you haven’t slept for days, plaster on the makeup. You do not want it going back to your lover that you looked miserable and suicidal. You could always try the direct approach and contact your former partner. Ask them out for a friendly cup of coffee, tea or meal and see where it goes.

 You never know they could have been dying to make contact but were afraid that you would not entertain them. People are funny creatures –they will often let fear of the unknown hinder their future happiness. Whatever you decide, remember that we only get one shot at life. It is not a dress rehearsal. Getting over a relationship or getting back with your ex are both achievable, the question is which one do you want to succeed at.

Do You Want To Be The Women Men Adore And Never Want To Leave

                                                
                                                                    
                                                                    
                                            
Do You Want To Be The Women Men Adore And Never Want To Leave

Many women dream of becoming the women men adore and never want to leave.  But just as many women go about it in the totally wrong way and end up losing one guy after another.  What is the secret?  I'll show you.

The first thing you have to do is totally change your way of thinking.  Our society has done a huge disservice to men and women by creating unrealistic expectations of what men and women should be.

For example, for most of your history women have been taught that men are overly sexual and that they really only want sex.  You've been led to believe that if a woman give her man enough sex he'll love you forever and never leave.  That is complete and utter nonsense!

Yes men like sex, but surprise, so do women! Women have just as high of a sex drive as men but the difference is our society has encouraged men to follow their sex drive while women have been taught that 'good girls' will wait until they're married.  The result?  Men judge their 'manliness' on the number of conquests they make and women are frustrated and angry that they are forced to put their needs on hold.

So if you want to keep your man happy you need to get over the idea that he needs sex all the time or that he needs it more than you.  Men and women really aren't that different in what they need and want from a relationship.  Two words can describe what they want: Connection and Support.

As humans we all need to feel connected to others.  If you can remember that and base your relationship on that fact you will have a great chance of making your man love you forever.

A connection can be made emotionally, spiritually, and sexually.  The more of these types of connections you and your man have the stronger your relationship will be.  If you want to keep him in love with you stay in a love-connected state with him.   Don't get sidetracked with negative petty issues; think out and weigh whats really important in the relationship for both of you. 

After all, you have to remember who you were when you met, he was attracted to that person so why would you change and become some boring, clingy, petty person now? 

The women men adore and never want to leave knows all of theses things.  She gives her man the connections and support he needs while keeping her own identity intact.  She doesn't put his needs above hers, but she lets him know that she is his biggest fan and loves and accepts him unconditionally.

Why Men Leave Relationships

 Why Men Leave Relationships

If you are a woman who is struggling to keep your relationship intact and you want to know why men leave relationships, this is the article for you.  As humans, we have the tendency to make things more complicated than they have to be.  This is compounded by some misconceptions that are strongly rooted in our society.

Many people have heard the saying: "Men use love to get sex and women use sex to get love".  The problem is that doesn't have to be the way it is.  While there might be some truth to that it just perpetuates a common flaw in our way of thinking: that men want and need sex more than women and that sex is all men need to be happy.

That's simply not true.  For the most part men and women have similar sex drives but our society, and really throughout history, men have been encouraged to 'sow their wild oats' and women have been told they have to be 'good girls'.  So men are used to giving in to their desires and women are used to putting their desires on hold.

No wonder relationships seem like such a challenge! Half the population doesn't feel like they have any control over their urges and the other half feels like their urges are wrong!

For anyone who wants a stable loving relationship you will need to re-think many of the concepts you were brought up to believe.  The truth is that anyone, men or women, will leave unfulfilled relationships and all but the most shallow people want to be fulfilled in many ways not just sexually.

In order to really have a loving long term relationship you need to have connections: physical, spiritual, and emotional.  These are necessary for the success of any long term relationship.  All people want to feel like they are accepted, understood, desired, and loved by their partners.

When one or more of these needs aren't met the relationship will start to fall apart.  For any woman who wants to know why men leave relationships so they can prevent it from happening to them, just remember to connect with your man on all of these levels, and both of you will be happy, fulfilled, and committed to the relationship forever.

What Type of Woman Do Men Consider Marriage Worthy?

What Type of Woman Do Men Consider Marriage Worthy?



Whether they openly admit it or not, most men want to marry a woman that is both sexy and smart. In other words, they want the ‘whole package’. And the great thing about intelligence is that you don’t have to be supermodel material to pull off sexy with your intellect.


Brains, confidence, and a having a point of view are just hot no matter how you package it. And the right man will see that immediately and, most likely, he will classify you as marriage material because of it.


Having a strong belief in yourself is another quality men find sexy in a woman; it’s a quality that differentiates you from the other women he might only classify as fling material. If you have a strong sense of self and know exactly who you are, men find that extremely attractive.


More importantly, by showing a man that you are strong and confident, he will also see you as a woman worthy of marriage. They figure if you can hold such a powerful belief in yourself, that then you could hold that kind of belief in him as well.


And deep down inside, men want you to believe in them. They want you to believe they can be the strong man you desire and need them to be.


Attract a man by approaching him from a place of strength and brains, rather than overt sex appeal, if you want him to see you as marriage material. And remember that, although first impressions do count, as a woman you hold  power and that power is you femininity. And it WORKS over men more than you realize!


Especially when getting a guy to choose you as his future wife. Use that power wisely and you just might be pleasantly surprised!

A Good Man is a Confident Man

A Good Man is a Confident Man
A lot of women always seem to choose men that are not right for them. They end up dating a string of losers and never seem to know why they can't find a good man.  Ladies, you need to be consciously aware not only of what you are attracted to, but also what you find unacceptable, and you need to take immediate action when a man has those unacceptable traits.

What It Means:

Most women know what they are attracted to. You might be looking for a man who is tall, good-looking, financially successful, has a great sense of humor etc. One trait that triggers attraction in women is confidence.

A man may have all of the other traits that you are looking for, he may be tall, good-looking, and wealthy but if he is so rude, insensitive, and treats women poorly  you probably aren't going to end up dating him. On the other hand,a man that might be slightly less attractive but who is extremely confident will have no trouble coming up to you and starting a conversation, and before long you may be attracted to him.

Being attracted to confidence is that the men who could be considered as a " Good Guy" are viewed by the media as nerdy; but in reality are usually oozing with confidence. If you go out on a date with a man who tells you that he appreciates to be with you and he shows that he's enjoying your company. That in itself is a very good sign and can lead to another date with you.

 The guy who is appreciate, kind, and treats women with respect will have tons of confidence and also have a lot of women interested in him. Why? , because he displays maintaining, providing and protecting qualities aka: Relationship Commitment Material.

Bottom Line:

As a woman, it is in your DNA to be attracted to confidence. It's like a chemical reaction that goes on inside your brain. What you need to be able to do as a woman is to make a list not only of the traits that you find attractive, but also the traits that you find unacceptable. You may feel drawn to a man that is good-looking but you have to be able to make a conscious decision to dump a guy when he exhibits traits that are on your unacceptable list.

Relationship Rescue

Relationship Rescue

Many people begin searching for relationship rescue tactics to try and bring back the spark they once had with a partner when the magic begins to fade. Over time, most relationships grow and change from the loving, romantic bond into a steady routine of daily rituals and habits. In some cases, those habits can make one or both people in the relationship feel as though they're being taken for granted.

Some people may find that they're arguing more often than they're enjoying each other. Others may find that there's nothing left to say to each other or they simply fall into a daily pattern where everything else seems more important than the relationship.

Your relationship doesn't have to be this way.

Often the first avenue many people try in order to re-kindle a relationship is to try and bring back some of the romance. Intimate dinners and provocative lingerie are nice physical attempts at bringing you closer again, but they don't address on the inner, emotional reasons why the relationship may be strained. On the other hand, endlessly talking about your relationship rescue plans and tactics could potentially drive a wedge between you and strain the relationship even further.

There are plenty of relationship rescue tactics you can use to bring that loving spark back into your relationships. Here are some relationship rescue suggestions you can try to help get you back on the right track.

1.    Appreciation

When the initial heady, romantic stage of any relationship begins to settle into a comfortable partnership, many people lose sight of the things they originally appreciated in their partner. They begin to focus on the things that irritate them or annoy them or make them mad.

Unfortunately, focusing on all the negative aspects of your partner can often bring about a feeling of resentment, which can lead to arguments and eventually the destruction of the relationship.

It's important to try and find things in your partner that you appreciate. You might appreciate their kindness or their sense of humor or their intelligence or whatever attribute attracted you to them in the first place.

2.    Awareness

Live each day of your relationship as though it was the last day you have with your partner. Accidents happen when we least expect them. While this doesn't mean it's going to happen to you, consider how you'd feel if something did happen and today really was the final day you had together.

What would you regret most? What would you wish you'd said or done or changed if you never had the opportunity to do them again?

Your answers to those questions should be the very same things you need to be doing with your partner each and every day. When you live each day as though it was your last, the romance will return almost immediately.

3.    Communication

Your partner can't read your mind. Sitting in silence letting a problem brew until you're at bursting point won't make your partner see problems any more clearly and it can compound the negative emotions within you.

It's important to communicate with your partner about your expectations, your needs, your goals and ambitions, your disappointment and anger. Communication is about letting the other person know what you're feeling in a clear, non-blaming manner so that you can both be sure you're on the same page.


Relationship rescue is all about finding ways to be sure you understand and appreciate the little things you do for each other instead of focusing on the negatives. If you can communicate clearly and find ways to appreciate and support your partner, then your relationship rescue attempts will be rewarded.

Help Him Fall Deeply in Love with You

Here's a one secret : There’s nothing more attractive to a man than a woman who is comfortable in her own skin, confident in herself, and kind to others. Learn more secrets at Girl Gets Ring.

Where to Find Good Men When You Think They’re All Taken

Where to Find Good Men When You Think They’re All Taken   

There’s a bit of myth that circulates a woman’s mind (often wildly perpetuated by media) that unless you’re  already married, all the good men are gone. Sorry gals but that’s simply not true.
There is a vast world out there full of eligible men that very well could turn out to be your very own Mr. McDreamy… if you know how to look for him. The first step in finding something you’re looking for or attracting that thing that you want most is to get really clear about just what the heck you want in the first place.

This Holds True for Finding and Attracting Mr. Right As Well

You need to know what kind of guy you want in your life for the long haul before you can even attempt to narrow down the field and figure out where to find him. Sound a little science-like? It almost sort of is!
Think about it for a moment though.

If you know very specifically the traits you do and do not want in a man it gives you the ability to quickly (and more importantly painlessly) move through the masses and walk away from a man that doesn’t fit your personal “Man Picture” without hesitation.  

You don’t wind up involved in messy relationships with men you will never be able to live with long-term because you already know (based on your personal “Man Picture”) exactly the type of guy you want to settle down with. It also allows you to find said man much easier by avoiding places you know he absolutely would not be caught dead in. It’s a bit like sales, marketing, and “Customer Avatars”; only applied to relationships and your own personal likes and dislikes in a mate.

In sales an ideal customer avatar is created based on all the characteristics market research has shown would make up a person most interested in a particular product or service. Then based on that customer avatar and all of those characteristics, targeted sales materials are created to sell specifically to that (fictional) person.
 
By the same token, if you create your own ideal personal “Man Picture” made up of all the traits and characteristics in a man that you absolutely adore… you know exactly who you are looking for.
You are then better able to figure out just where this man might be found and won’t waste valuable time or wind up battling heartbreak (to quote an old country song) by  “looking for love in all the wrong places”.

In Girl Gets Ring I talk about something called the Waterfall Characteristic. In a quick nutshell it’s basically a single driving character trait you are looking for in a man that when you find it… you find the man that also tends to have a lion’s share of all those other character traits you’re looking for. Suddenly that man’s chances of being Mr. Right are increased exponentially. But you won’t know that single driving character trait or any of those other traits if you don’t first take some time to get really clear on who Mr. Right really is to you.

Create that mental picture of Mr. Right and then you can start putting yourself in his path by frequenting places he is most likely to be found.

Sample Questions to Help You Snapshot Your Personal “Man Picture”

• What does he look like?
• Is his hair long?
• Is his hair short?
• Is he clean-shaven or somewhat scruffy?
• What does he like to do?
• Where does he like to hang out?
• Who does he like to hang out with?
• What sort of job does he have?
• Is he into manual labor?
• Does he have a desk job?
• Is he funny?
• Is he serious?
• Is he athletic?
• Is he a fascinating blend of all three?
• Does he like books?
• Does he like art?
• Does he like to cook?
• Does he prefer sushi over BBQ?
• Does he prefer t-shirts or dress shirts?
• Does he like wearing boots or flip-flops?

As you can see these questions can get pretty specific. You can be as broad or as narrow as you want but the clearer a picture you can get of Mr. Right the better your chances of spotting him when he drifts into your orbit.
Once you have that personal “Man Picture” in place you should then have a good starting point on where to begin looking for him based on his most dominant characteristics and you can begin placing yourself onto a path of collision. (I know! The space metaphors are awesome… what can I say, I’m on a roll.)

Careful though because you may find this strategy winds up placing more than one Mr. Right in your path which then leaves you with (gasp) options! For obvious reasons you don’t want too many of those but it never hurts to have more than one apple to choose from right?

And there you were, thinking all the good men were taken. You just didn’t know how to find them!

We Have a Kid and I Want to Get Married and Stay Together - How Do I Make This Happen

We Have a Kid and I Want to Get Married and Stay Together - How Do I Make This Happen 



Thе twо оf уоu hаvе а child аnd оnе оf уоu dоеѕ nоt wаnt tо commit. Whаt іѕ thе reason fоr bоth оf уоu nоt ѕееіng eye tо eye? I'm ѕurе thе decisions thаt nееd tо bе mаdе іn raising thіѕ child hаvе caused а lot оf arguments. If so, аѕk yourself, аrе thеу rеаllу issues thаt can't bе worked out? Chances аrе уоur emotions аrе gеttіng іn thе wау оf compromising аnd finding solutions together. Aftеr all, bоth оf уоu аrе gоіng tо nееd tо work tоgеthеr fоr уоur child fоr а long time, ѕо whу nоt start now. Yоu knоw it's bеttеr оvеrаll fоr thе kid tо hаvе bоth parents gеt аlоng аnd ultimately stay together.

Rebuilding thе relationship wіth еасh оthеr іѕ thе fіrѕt step іn making thіѕ work іf уоu wаnt tо gеt married аnd stay together. Nоt јuѕt fоr thе child but fоr еасh оthеr too. Tаkе іt slow. Bе patient. Aѕk уоurѕеlf whаt brought уоu twо tоgеthеr іn thе fіrѕt place аnd gо frоm there. Mothers аrе еѕресіаllу emotional аbоut thеіr children ѕо іf уоu аrе а man reading this, thе bеѕt thіng уоu саn dо rіght nоw tо impress hеr іѕ pour уоur love аnd attention іntо thаt child. Yоu ѕhоuld bе dоіng thаt anyway, but naturally, а woman wіth а child wаntѕ а man thаt wіll аlwауѕ bе thеrе аnd provide fоr thаt child. That's а vеrу strong natural instinct іn а woman.

If уоu аrе а woman reading thіѕ аnd lооkіng tо kеер thе man уоu love аnd thе father оf уоur child, tаkе а step back. Trу nоt tо demand аnd nag. I knоw thіѕ sounds harsh bесаuѕе I'm ѕurе you're оnlу demanding bесаuѕе уоu wаnt уоur child tаkеn care of, but males run fast frоm nags nо matter whаt it's about. Males unfоrtunаtеlу ѕее thіѕ behavior аѕ hаvіng а mother telling thеm whаt tо dо rаthеr thаn а lover аnd partner. Yоu dо wаnt what's bеѕt fоr уоur child, ѕо maybe, thе bеѕt thіng tо dо rіght nоw іѕ tо lооk аt уоurѕеlf аnd ask, "would I stay wіth mуѕеlf acting thіѕ way?" mоѕt lіkеlу not.

Mауbе уоu hаd а child ѕо ѕооn thаt уоu rеаllу nеvеr hаd chance tо work оn уоur оwn relationship wіth еасh other. I wаnt tо tеll уоu it's nоt tоо late!

Remember, уоu аrе рrоbаblу hеrе bесаuѕе уоu wаnt what's bеѕt fоr уоur child аnd уоu ѕtіll love уоur significant other. Searching fоr а wау tо mаkе uр аnd stay tоgеthеr аlrеаdу shows уоu аrе tаkіng responsibility аnd genuinely care аnd wаnt tо mаkе іt right. Don't wait аnу longer. Thе time іѕ now!