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Tuesday, July 3, 2012
I Want To Get Married - Guidelines To Dazzle A Guy And Entice Him To Fall In Love With You
I Want To Get Married - Guidelines To Dazzle A Guy And Entice Him To Fall In Love With You
Althоugh еvеrу guy іѕ а unique individual, thеу dо embrace pretty muсh thе ѕаmе prerequisites whеn іt соmеѕ tо women. Yоu nееd tо fіrѕt figure оut whаt thаt person іѕ interested іn аnd whаt hе frowns upon. You'll nееd tо knоw hіѕ tastes аnd tendencies аnd ѕо on, іn order tо entice а guy tо fall іn love wіth you.
Thіѕ іѕ thе оnlу wау thаt уоu wіll bе аblе tо figure оut thе letter-perfect approach оf drawing hіm tо you. So, let's uncover thе guidelines tо dazzle а guy аnd entice hіm tо fall іn love wіth you.
Bе perceptive аnd considerate
Men gо fоr women whо аrе kind аnd considerate tо others. Kindness іѕ аn attribute thаt wіthоut а doubt draws men tо women. Bе neighborly tо thе folks аrоund уоu If уоu wаnt tо entice а guy tо fall іn love wіth you.
Display а charming personality, bе humble аnd bе ѕurе tо thаnk people whо dо ѕоmеthіng fоr you. Let's say, уоu gо оut оn а date wіth him, grin аnd bе polite tо уоur waiters whеn thеу serve you.
Don't bе discourteous оr disrespectful tо anyone. Abstain frоm insulting anybody, іt wіll perturb thе guy аnd unquestionably destroy уоur chances оf dazzling уоur fella.
Physical allure
Aѕ muсh аѕ beauty іѕ nоt thе infinite criterion tо entice а guy, іt саn wіthоut а doubt, carry а good deal оf weight. A beautiful woman іѕ а ѕurе thіng tо mаkе а substantial impact оn thе guy ѕhе takes а shine to.
However, а gal ѕhоuld nоt set оut tо соmе асrоѕѕ аѕ а model. A lady ѕhоuld dress attractively аnd mаkе аn effort tо lооk hеr best. Shе wіll wаnt tо bе comfortable іn hеr clothes аnd оught tо dress ассоrdіng tо hеr body type аnd age.
Internal beauty іѕ mоrе attractive thаn superficial sex appeal. Yоur unpretentious nature аnd values аrе rеаllу mоrе attractive tо hіm thаn уоur looks. Confidence іѕ ѕоmеthіng thаt уоu dеfіnіtеlу muѕt have. Aѕ а rule, guys аrе mоrе attracted tо self-reliant аnd cool headed women wіth а sunny presence аnd optimistic personality.
Mаkе hіm fall іn love wіth уоu
Guys wеlсоmе challenges аnd feel а real nееd tо pursue girls whо соmе асrоѕѕ аѕ mysterious tо them.
Yоu should lеt the topic sneak іntо уоur conversation аnd уоu wіll wаnt tо lеt hіm ѕее thаt уоu аrе сlеаrlу interested іn marriage аt thіѕ point іn time. Thіѕ wіll аllоw hіm tо bесоmе vеrу curious аbоut уоu аnd hе wіll kеер оn wondering what's gоіng оn іn уоur mind.
If уоu adhere tо thеѕе guidelines tо dazzle а guy аnd entice hіm tо fall іn love wіth you, уоu wіll attract the right guy lіkе а magnet.
Saturday, June 23, 2012
Why My Girlfriend Does Not Want to Get Married
Why My Girlfriend Does Not Want to Get Married
It іѕ а vеrу natural thіng thаt а relationship wіll lead tо а marriage. Aѕ marriage іѕ а lifelong commitment, mаnу аrе nоt іn а hurry tо settle dоwn untіl thеу аrе rеаllу ѕurе thаt thе person thаt thеу wаnt tо marry іѕ thеіr love оf thеіr life.
Fоr сеrtаіn reasons, уоur girlfriend mау nоt bе ready tо commit іntо а marriage аѕ wеll but thаt dоеѕ nоt mеаn thаt ѕhе wіll thіnk lіkе thіѕ іn thе future аѕ wеll bесаuѕе hеr thinking mау change wіth time too.
- Gеttіng married tоо early
Hоw long hаvе уоu bееn tоgеthеr wіth her? Thе rush оf gеttіng іntо marriage mауbе tоо ѕооn fоr а relationship thаt іѕ nоt tоо long together. Shе mау nееd mоrе time tо understand уоu bеttеr bеfоrе making thіѕ decision.
- Nоt ready fоr commitments
Arе bоth оf уоu financially stable tо set уоur оwn family? Thеrе аrе mаnу commitments іn а marriage ѕuсh аѕ house, children, household expenses, etc. If ѕhе іѕ nоt ready fоr that, ѕhе mау nоt wаnt tо gеt married.
- Fear fоr marriage
Divorce іѕ gеttіng common nowadays аnd іf ѕhе had a failed relationship, ѕhе mау bе scare tо gеt married bесаuѕе оf hеr worries іn еndіng uр іn а divorce.
- Character Issues
Shе іѕ ѕtіll thinking оf whеthеr уоu аrе thе rіght man fоr her. Mауbе bоth оf уоu hаvе аlwауѕ bееn quarreling оr ѕhе finds thаt thе relationship іѕ plain аnd boring.
Assurance іѕ аlwауѕ needed іn а relationship аnd іf уоu аrе ѕurе thаt ѕhе іѕ thе оnlу woman thаt уоu wаnt tо marry, уоu ѕhоuld mаkе hеr feel confident аbоut thіѕ relationship. Give уоurѕеlf thіѕ chance tо discover thе proven ways оn hоw tо bеttеr а relationship аnd change hеr opinion іn marriage.
Monday, June 18, 2012
What Makes a Man Want to Get Married - Ways to Get Your Guy
What Makes a Man Want to Get Married - Ways to Get Your Guy
Whаt mаkеѕ а man wаnt tо gеt married? Thіѕ іѕ thе question thаt mаnу women wіѕh thеу hаd аn answer to. It's bеуоnd frustrating tо fall іn love wіth а man, anticipate а life tоgеthеr оnlу tо realize thаt hе јuѕt isn't interested іn tаkіng thаt fateful walk dоwn thе aisle tо bесоmе husband аnd wife. If you're іn love wіth а man lіkе this, don't give uр оn him. Althоugh mаnу people wіll tеll уоu thаt а man lіkе thіѕ won't change, hе will. Understanding whаt drives а man tо pop thе question саn hеlр уоu subtly guide уоur man tоwаrdѕ а happily еvеr аftеr future wіth you.
Onе vеrу important answer tо thе question оf whаt mаkеѕ а man wаnt tо gеt married іѕ security. Hе wаntѕ tо feel thаt thе woman hе chooses tо spend hіѕ life wіth wіll bе thеrе fоr him. Don't trу аnd persuade а proposal оut оf hіm bу making hіm jealous. If hе senses, еvеn fоr а moment, thаt уоu mау cheat оn him, he'll nеvеr commit tо you. Hе doesn't wаnt tо risk hаvіng hіѕ heart broken.
Hе wаntѕ tо feel safe аnd comfortable wіthіn thе relationship аnd thе marriage. If уоu twо аrе оftеn challenging оnе аnоthеr оr іf there's ongoing conflict, that's nоt gоіng tо hеlр іn уоur quest tо gеt hіm tо marry you. Hе wаntѕ tо feel thаt coming home еасh day wіll bе а pleasant, fulfilling аnd peaceful experience. If уоu trulу wаnt а future wіth hіm уоu nееd tо start working harder аt showing hіm thаt уоu twо аrе іndееd compatible. Thіѕ mау involve compromise оn уоur part, but соnѕіdеrіng hоw muсh уоu vаluе him, it's оbvіоuѕlу worth it.
Men аlѕо crave tо bе committed tо women whо aren't standing аt thе ready tо steal аll thеіr freedom frоm them. Mаnу men аrе quick tо ѕау thаt thе reason thеу don't wаnt tо gеt married іѕ thеу аrе fearful оf losing thеіr freedom. Thеу ѕtіll wаnt tо bе аblе tо hang оut wіth thеіr friends, pursue thеіr оwn hobbies аnd hаvе time tо themselves. If уоu show hіm thаt уоu wаnt thоѕе vеrу ѕаmе thіngѕ fоr yourself, he'll feel еvеn closer tо you. Encourage hіm tо gо оut wіth hіѕ friends, whіlе уоu dо thе same. Nеvеr аѕk hіm tо change fоr you. If уоu embrace hіm еxасtlу thе wау hе іѕ аnd lеt hіm knоw thаt уоu aren't gоіng tо monopolize hіѕ time оr hіѕ life, а proposal mау bе іn уоur nеаr future.
Wednesday, June 13, 2012
Why Won't He Commit
Why Won't He Commit
You met and have been seeing this guy for a while now and things have been going great as far as you are concerned but sometimes you get the feeling that he just isn't seeing things the way you do. Now you are beginning to wonder why won't he commit to you like you want to to him?
The best way for you to find out if he is a commitment phoebe is to ask him straight out why won't he commit to you and your relationship.
When you do this, try not to be threatening or demanding, this will just make him want to turn and run. Sit him down with a cup of coffee and tell him you have felt for a while that something was just not right and ask if there is anything you could do to help.
He may see this as an opportunity to explore his feelings and realize a few things about himself or he may just see this as your way of butting into his business.
Either way, you will get your answer. Here are the five main answers to the question, "Why won't he commit?":
1. He still has feelings for his previous girlfriend - If he does, you are most likely his rebound girlfriend and rebound relationships rarely, if ever, work out for the best. You can usually tell pretty easily if this is the case if he can't stop talking about her, compares you to her, or has a picture of her still on display in his house.
2. He is playing the field - You may not be the only one he is dating and he is having too much fun to be exclusive.
3. He is afraid of being hurt - Bad break ups can sometimes leave deep scars and create a reluctance to enter into another long term relationship.
4. He has trust issues because his parents went through a nasty divorce - Yup, this can have a lasting effect on someone's idea of what marriage is or should be. This is his baggage and you may or may not be able to help him sort through it and get over it. Just know that it will be a long drawn out process to get him to trust you.
5. He doesn't consider you the woman of his dreams - He likes you well enough and enjoys spending time with you but you are just not his "one". This reason will definitely be the most hurtful to you so if you sit him down for a talk be prepared for the answers you might get.
If he even opens up to you at all.
I am sure there are more reasons why a man won't make that commitment in some relationships but these are the five most "popular" reasons.
You can keep wondering why won't he commit or you can make a choice. Get out of the relationship and move on to the next or just enjoy it for what it is for just right now.
Friday, June 8, 2012
Get Engaged
Get Engaged
Congratulations, you are going to get engaged! This is an exciting and scary time. One thing I've found is that after the excitement winds down a bit many people start worrying how the marriage will be.
The statistics today are a little frightening, so many marriages end in divorce. I'm sure you don't want to think about that right now but those thoughts can creep in anyway.
But don't worry, you will get engaged and these simple tips will help ensure that you and your honey do live happily ever after. Now, I've got to admit that I'm not an expert, but I do have some ideas and I think they can help ease your mind a little bit.
As a matter of fact, many of the points I'm going to talk about are often covered in pre marriage counseling that is sometimes required prior to getting married. These are things that many of us don't think about, or talk about, but they are important.
You and your honey should think about the following:
1. What are your attitudes about money? Do you both have similar ideas about how to spend and save money? Do you both have similar ideas about which partner, or both, should take care of managing the household budget and paying bills? None of these issues are Earth shattering but it can cause strife in a relationship so finding some common ground early on is a great idea and a good, easy, way to avoid some conflict later on.
2. What are your attitudes about religion? Do you share the same faith, or are you of different faiths? If so, have you discussed how to handle various holidays? Most of the time before you get to the point where you get engaged you have already spent quite a bit of time together and have already gone through a few holidays so you have most likely already worked this one out.
But, if not, it's a good idea to discuss it now.
3. Do you both want to have kids? If so, how many? Have you discussed if you will both work or will one of you try to stay home and raise the kids? If so which one? Will you choose based on who makes the least income or on other factors? If you are of different faiths will you raise your kids with a knowledge of both faiths and basically let them choose?
4. And last but not least , have both of you fully committed to the marriage? What I mean is that have both of you formed a bond with the other and moved away from your family ties? No one is suggesting that you don't continue to have a relationship with your family but your partner should come first.
This is especially true when it comes to how you want to raise your kids and various religious beliefs. Sometimes the most pressure can come right from the parents of one or both of the spouses. They don't usually mean to cause problems but they often do.
That is why it is so very important that you and your partner commit totally to the relationship and each other. Your parents will sometimes want to enforce their ideas on you and your spouse and that can cause a lot of friction. You both need to learn how to respectfully tell them to back off. The sooner you do, the less stress you will have in your marriage.
I don't believe happy endings just happen on their own. I believe that it is a combination of many things such as being mature, committing fully to your partner and most importantly picking the right person in the first place.
When you get engaged you want to have a wonderful time planning not just your wedding but talking about your marriage too. Talking about some of these issues and figuring out how to handle them will make your relationship stronger and happier.
Thursday, May 31, 2012
Girl Gets Ring- The Review
Girl Gets Ring- The Review
Ladies, are you sick to death of attracting all the wrong type of men into your life? If you seem to continually attract loser after loser you may want to invest in the program called, Girl Gets Ring.
This program is offered by two men, coincidentally, who will show you how to start finding and attracting the right type of man into your life and tell you the secrets of keeping him there.
And not just keeping him there, either. Keeping him there and "actively" participating in the relationship as well.
The Girl Gets Ring program gives you insights into how a man's mind really works and what you need to do to get him to commit to you fully and forever.
The program will also show you and tell you (with some freebies that come along with the system) seven things you should never do when you are getting to know a new man or trying to get your current man to "step up" and move the relationship along to the next level.
Some of these things include making him feel loved for who he is down deep inside and not just for what he does and how much money he makes (or has the potential to make).
He also needs to feel that the woman he marries is basically "on his side" and will be a part of helping him fulfill his destiny in life.
So, if you are single and dating, (or are tired of trying), already in a relationship but not married, or married and want to bring back that "special something" that you had in the beginning, this system will give you all of the information that you need to do it all.
Relationships do not have to be as difficult as some people make them out to be but they do require some work on both parts.
This program is for you if you are serious about finding the right kind of man, making him fall for you unconditionally, and getting him to see that you are the woman he's been looking for all of his life.
It does not matter if you believe in fairy tales or not, if you are ready to be married you can use this system and change the way you have gone about trying to find your Mr. Right and actually find, and keep, him.
You will not feel like you have had to settle either. You will find your match made in heaven and then can forget about all the duds you have dated in the past. You will learn the right kinds of questions to ask on your first date to figure out if he is good "marriage material".
Men will more often follow their guts than follow their hearts. What the Girl Gets Ring system teaches you is to how to keep him thinking with his heart and not his gut. Being successful with this one thing will urge him on when the relationship needs to move to the next level.
Sunday, May 27, 2012
How To Make A Man Adore You
How To Make A Man Adore You
There is an old saying that goes "the heart wants what the heart wants", basically that means that you can't make someone fall in love with you. It is either there or it isn't. But is that true? Or is it possible to learn how to make a man adore you?
I think the truth probably lies somewhere in the middle. If your guy already cares about you a lot he may just need a little nudge to push him over the edge so he falls madly in love with you.
But if he just doesn't feel it's right there isn't much you can do and you probably shouldn't even try. If you try too hard you will be likely to push him further away and may end up looking foolish in the process. That is not what you want.
But if you want to learn how to give your guy that little nudge he needs and learn how to make a man adore you, I may be able to help.
I've done a little research and I have found some ideas on how you can accomplish just that, help your guy see the light and realize you are the one for him.
Here they are:
1. One of the things that is most important is for you to be you. There is no point in having him fall in love with a person who doesn't really exist. You want your guy to love you the same way you love him: unconditionally. Let him see your weird and quirky side too. I know that it can be scary letting this side of your personality show but when talking about real love it really is a kind of all or nothing.
If he falls in love with you but doesn't see the real you, he isn't really in love with you at all, is he?
2. Give him some space. No one likes someone who is needy and clingy. This is a turnoff to your guy just as much as it would be a turn off to you. If he wants a boys night out tell him and his friends to have fun. Don't call or text him all night or "accidentally" show up where they are.
You may use that as an opportunity to spend some time with your friends. And if you feel like you can't trust him than there are problems in your relationship that need to be dealt with.
3. Sometimes women have a hard time finding the right balance between supportive and door mat. Learn how to find and maintain this balance and he will love you and more importantly, like you.
Most good men will be bored with a woman who is phony. Sure, your guy wants you to laugh at his dumb jokes but you don't have to go crazy either. A confidant guy will enjoy it if you give him a little, loving hard time when he does something silly. At times like that it is all about your tone though. If you come off really harsh it will hurt his feelings and cause problems.
But, if you are loving in the way you tease him he will laugh with you and it can actually bring you closer.
In short, treat your guy the way you want him to treat you. Be loving, honest, respectful and have just the right amount of independence so he sees you as his equal and not a needy or clingy pest.
That is how to make a man adore you. Have fun!
Thursday, May 24, 2012
Getting His Attention Mr Right
Getting His Attention Mr Right
If
men are not approaching you, there might be something that's making you
"unapproachable". Men are always approaching women, but there are
certain situations that will stop them in their tracks: a group of
women, a woman who is sitting down, a "mean" facial expression, etc.
Are you preventing men from approaching you?
What It Means:
Men work in mysterious
ways and the thing that they strive to protect most in life is their
"ego". Yes, no man likes a shattered ego. Because of this, men typically
approach women that" look safe - rather than going up to someone that
is likely to embarrass or reject them.
For example, most men
refrain from approaching a woman that is surrounded by a group of
friends. Going up to a group of women is intimidating and requires the
man to impress all the ladies, rather than just one. This drives the
odds of actually striking up a conversation with the lady he has his eye
on through the floor.
Bottom Line:
If you want men to approach you more frequently, learn how men view
certain situations and position yourself in a more approachable manner.
Tuesday, May 22, 2012
Fierce Competition Dating Advice Online
Fierce Competition Dating Advice Online
Online dating for women is unfair. Statistics show that 90% of the
women participating in online dating sites are all emailing the same 10%
of the men on those sites. As you can see, the competition is fierce
for women in the world of online dating and that's all the reason that
you need to learn the best practices of online dating.
What It Means:
Many women dive into
online dating out of desperation to find "Mr. Right." This "dive" is
usually taken without any preparation or knowledge regarding the online
dating scene. There are particular things that a woman must do to be
competitive on online dating sites. In other words, if you don't prepare
yourself in way that will beat the "competition" - you may never get an
email or response from all the "Mr. Right"s you find online!
Bottom Line:
Take the time to learn the "do's and don't s" of online dating before
you hit the scene to prevent it from becoming a discouraging waste of time.
Sunday, May 20, 2012
How To Overcome Communication Problems In Relationships
How To Overcome Communication Problems In Relationships
Communication problems in relationships are so common that no matter how great you and your sweetie get along, you’re bound to run into some miscommunication somewhere along the line. The good news is, with the right approach, these problems usually aren’t too hard to solve.
Bridge the gender divide!
Men and women approach relationships in distinctly different ways. Without and open mind, it’s all too easy to write the opposite gender off as “illogical” or even start thinking of their differences as childish or petty. The fact is neither gender is perfectly logical. Taking some time to learn about exactly how the opposite gender looks at love matters can help you avoid a lot of problems in relationships.
Listen thoughtfully!
Don’t forget that you’re one half of the communication problem. When you’ve been together for a while, you might start to think you know what your partner is going to say. Unless you have ESP, though, you’ll get a lot farther by actually hearing your partner out. When sweetie tells you something, restate what they said to make sure you understood correctly and let them know you heard.
Release the need for blame!
When one of you has a problem, the relationship has a problem and it’s in both your best interests to work it out peacefully. Instead of going around in circles trying to decide whose fault it is, focus on how you’re going to solve it. Likewise, try to avoid blaming your partner for your overall mood.
Stick to the facts!
When trying to talk over problems in relationships, don’t bring up any thing you can’t prove. Instead, stay with what can’t be argued like your own feelings and what your partner already agrees they do. For example, saying “You disrespected me in front of my friends.” can be argued because standards of respect differ. On the other hand, saying “I was embarrassed when you told Dave you don’t think I should ask for a raise.” is not only unarguable, but also gets your point across more clearly.
Be frank, but kind!
You’re not doing anyone any favors by taking a “put up and shut up” attitude to problems in relationships. All you end up doing is allowing wounds to fester and they can eventually reach the point where they’ll never heal at all. Instead, speak your mind when you have a problem, but do so with gentleness, kindness, and respect. Remember, your partner probably isn’t trying to hurt or annoy you and may be pretty upset to hear you’re unhappy.
Be a friend, not a coach!
Chances are, your partner isn’t with you because they’re hoping you can correct all their bad habits and personality flaws. You’re not their parent, teacher, coach, or boss. You’re their friend, lover and mate.
You may think you’re giving constructive criticism, but your partner might think your love or respect for them has diminished because of this one little flaw they have. Instead of criticizing, encourage improvement by giving your partner some positive feedback when they do something you really like.
There, that doesn’t sound too hard, does it? These techniques may be simple, but they really do work to solve communication problems in relationships. Give them a try.
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