Why Won't He Commit
You met and have been seeing this guy for a while now and things have been going great as far as you are concerned but sometimes you get the feeling that he just isn't seeing things the way you do. Now you are beginning to wonder why won't he commit to you like you want to to him?
The best way for you to find out if he is a commitment phoebe is to ask him straight out why won't he commit to you and your relationship.
When you do this, try not to be threatening or demanding, this will just make him want to turn and run. Sit him down with a cup of coffee and tell him you have felt for a while that something was just not right and ask if there is anything you could do to help.
He may see this as an opportunity to explore his feelings and realize a few things about himself or he may just see this as your way of butting into his business.
Either way, you will get your answer. Here are the five main answers to the question, "Why won't he commit?":
1. He still has feelings for his previous girlfriend - If he does, you are most likely his rebound girlfriend and rebound relationships rarely, if ever, work out for the best. You can usually tell pretty easily if this is the case if he can't stop talking about her, compares you to her, or has a picture of her still on display in his house.
2. He is playing the field - You may not be the only one he is dating and he is having too much fun to be exclusive.
3. He is afraid of being hurt - Bad break ups can sometimes leave deep scars and create a reluctance to enter into another long term relationship.
4. He has trust issues because his parents went through a nasty divorce - Yup, this can have a lasting effect on someone's idea of what marriage is or should be. This is his baggage and you may or may not be able to help him sort through it and get over it. Just know that it will be a long drawn out process to get him to trust you.
5. He doesn't consider you the woman of his dreams - He likes you well enough and enjoys spending time with you but you are just not his "one". This reason will definitely be the most hurtful to you so if you sit him down for a talk be prepared for the answers you might get.
If he even opens up to you at all.
I am sure there are more reasons why a man won't make that commitment in some relationships but these are the five most "popular" reasons.
You can keep wondering why won't he commit or you can make a choice. Get out of the relationship and move on to the next or just enjoy it for what it is for just right now.
