4 Great Lessons From Relationships Experts

4 Great Lessons From Relationships Experts

If you've read or listened to relationships experts, you know that some of what they say is just common sense. They tell us things we already know, but they're great at putting it into words and examples that make things easier to understand. The best relationships experts just know how to communicate.

They can take those common sense things and say them in a way that makes you get it. Like the concept of  what to expect and what to give in a relationship. This is one of the best lessons you can get from relationships experts.

Very often we go along in a relationship and as time goes on we start to take the other person for granted a little bit. We don't thank them as much, and sometimes we don't do nice things in return for them quite as much.

It's not that we don't want to, but that we simply forget or think there will be time later. After the relationship hit a rocky period or ended. We start to remember to be thoughtful and kind. And it becomes very important to us.. Relationships experts stress that as a good way to keep a relationship strong.

A second great lesson from the experts is to do what the other person will appreciate. This is another great common sense lesson that's all too easy to overlook. It applies to anytime during a relationship but after you've gotten back together from a break up or other bad patches it's even more important.

To do what the other person wants doesn't mean you should never consider yourself. But you should try to do what appeals to them to show them that you care. If it really makes you happy when your boyfriend or husband helps you wash the dishes, then maybe if you helped him with some housework that would make him feel loved, too.

But there may be ways he likes to feel loved that are different. He might be the type of person who likes to hear you say it often, or likes romantic gestures. Even if those things aren't as important to you, you need to do the things that are special to him.

Sometimes we forget that, or we just assume that everyone responds to the same things. But doing what makes the other person feel most special is easy to do, as long as we remind ourselves to do it.

And a lesson that the experts teach that often goes forgotten is respect. Of course, you respect your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife but does it always show?  This is part of taking them for granted but goes beyond not thanking them or returning loving gestures.

Often, the person we're closest to gets the brunt of our worst days. We might be late for something and keep them waiting, or we might just accidentally be inconsiderate and not apologize enough. Take a lesson from the relationships experts and ask yourself if you treat your partner with the same respect you would treat a parents or co-worker :)

How To Get Your Relationships Needs Met

How To Get Your Relationships Needs Met

If you can get your relationships needs met, the relationship has a better chance of being long and happy. Not having your needs met is one of the biggest reasons relationships don't work out. It's especially important to have your relationships needs met to stay happy and stay together.
The surefire way to get your needs met in a relationship is by making sure the other person knows just what those needs are. You can't read minds, and you shouldn't expert your partner to be able to read minds either. He or she wants to make sure your relationships needs are met, so tell them what they are.

At the same time, encourage your partner to tell you the needs he or she feels are important. You might be surprised to learn, if you've never had this conversation before, how different your needs might be.

You might feel the need for you partner to tell you he loves you often, so may you do that for him. He no doubt enjoys that, but maybe what he really needs is for you to do quick considerate things to make him feel special. Some people like to be told, and some people like to be shown.

Simply having a discussion about your relationships needs can strengthen the relationship and make it easier for you to keep each other happy. If you're uncomfortable having such a frank discussion, you should do it anyway. Telling each other your needs is better than hinting or expecting them to be psychic.

You may really need your partner to be more helpful to you. But when it's time to clean or wash dishes you do them alone, yet again. And instead of simply asking for help or letting him know that it would mean a lot to you if he would do them sometimes or do them with you. But instead you get angry.

You might huff around while you're doing them, slam a cabinet, or act otherwise out. This is passive aggressive behavior. You're trying to manipulate him into helping you by acting that way. It's much better and healthier to simply ask for help.

Passive aggressive behavior is common in relationships, and it's a worsening cycle because it doesn't work. If he does take your hint, it's only after you've acted upon being angry and resentful. So his doing the dishes might be only to keep you from acting that way.

If you ask for help and explain that it makes you feel good when he wants to help you, then he's coming at the task from a place of love and helpfulness. He doesn't feel a sense guilt into doing it, so it's better for everyone.

This applies to things like showing affection, respecting each others feelings, and every aspect of your relationship. When you want something, ask for it, and be prepared to give your partner what he or she asks for to make sure all your relationships needs are met.

SUBJ: Finally...WHY MEN PULL AWAY...(and what you can do about it)

    

SUBJ: Finally...WHY MEN PULL AWAY...(and what you can do about it)


 
Hello there,  Dr. Paul here.....You made it back again ( yea !)

If you're up to it...I've got something I want to ask you?

And then let's have a little discussion...okay?

Here's my question?

It's likely you've experienced a time when you felt like your guy was "pulling a-w-a-y" from you...

Many times, to make it more maddening, it seems like it happens right after you two had a fantastic time together and seemed to connect...right?

Which leaves you totally freaked out because you don't know what the heck happened?

Was it because?

...you've moved too fast?...

...was it something you did?

...or is it just him?

My question...and I know it's a sensitive one is...

Have you ever felt like it was because HE WAS LOSING INTEREST IN YOU?


If you have...May I share a bit of  wisdom with you?

It'll make you feel better.

IMPORTANT Little known WISDOM: Men RARELY pull away from you because of loss of interest.

In fact...

He can be DEEPLY in love with you and still pull away...or worse... leave the relationship all together!

How's that supposed to make you feel better?

Here's how...

Men pull away for 4 very distinct reasons...

These are called the 4 Masculine Hero Avatar Principles or 4 M.H.A.P. for short

==>Learn more about WHY MEN PULL AWAY and 4 M.H.A.P.

Once you understand WHY he pulls away, it's much EASIER to see how you should react when
he does pull away.

But that's not even the best part...

The powerful part is BECAUSE now you know he's not pulling away because he's less interested...

You'll avoid overcompensating, which means you avoid him pulling away FURTHER.

Make sense?

T Dub has a talent for explaining this in a fun way using what he calls his "Magic Traffic Signal"...

==>Watch His Free Video Lesson Here 

You'll get a kick out of his warm Southern accent too:-)

OH! If you dream of being married soon?

T Dub has started one of the biggest marriage movements in history called:

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 Which I'm so very Proud to be apart of  :-)

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I'm curious how much closer your relationship will be when you put what T Dub teaches you to use?

Sincerely,
Dr. Paul Pharms, PhD.

PS

Not only will you learn WHY men pull away and what you can do about it, but you'll also discover
"invisible man traps", his Masculine Hero Avatar and I got a kick out of what T Dub calls "man repellent"...LOL!

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Why First Kisses Go Bad

 Why First Kisses Go Bad

If you have ever been on a first date, you have probably had an awful kiss moment.  This is one of the most
important things I have to teach men about because it’s mostly our fault.  But the truth is that women never really help us.

If a man takes you on a date there is a 90% chance he wants to kiss you.  He is only waiting and really just paying his taxes until you give him the sign that he has: spent enough money, told enough good stories, spent enough time with you.

What you need to know is that men cannot read your signals.

I know that it’s hard to believe but all of those subtle little signals you are sending out are only understandable to other women.  I have stood next to a student while a woman kept leaning in closer and closer to his mouth and he didn’t realize what was happening. 

She would close her eyes, tilt her head and lean in toward his mouth.  He wouldn’t react and she would rock back out.  I had to sneak up behind him and tell him that I would punch him in the kidney if he didn’t kiss her.

That might seem extreme but it was the only way that woman was ever going to get kissed.

The worst thing that can happen on a first date is the awkward front door moment.  I spend so much time teaching my male students how to avoid it, but it always amazes me how many women will actively create this socially awkward moment.
The earlier you kiss on a date the better.

Please have the courtesy to remove the elephant in the room.

He is only pretending to listen to your story about your sister’s new job.  All he’s thinking about is that moment.  Is she going to kiss me?  Is she not going to kiss me?  Am I wasting my time?

If you ever wonder why men don’t remember anything you say on a first date, that’s why. It’s a constant track running through the backs of their minds.

Is there a solution?

Of course there is!  I wouldn’t leave you hanging.  I am going to teach you a kissing technique that has been passed down from male dating coach to male dating coach for generations.  This is the first kissing move I ever tried, and it worked great.

Just say to him, “Do you want to kiss me?”

Now I know that sounds scary, but don’t worry.  There is an escape hatch.  Besides, don’t you want to know early on if you are with a guy who’s not interested?

There are only three possible answers: yes, no and maybe.

YES – “Then what are you waiting for?” and kiss.

NO – “Oh, you just looked like you were thinking about something.”

MAYBE, “Let’s find out,” and the ball is in his court.

By moving the kiss forward in the date you avoid creating an awkward situation that actually makes you no longer attracted to a man.  If you have that front door moment, there is just too much pressure.  It forces you to recall way too many movies and that’s something you really want to avoid.

So just get it out of the way so you can have a nice date.